In this reflective episode, I explore a feeling that has stayed with me for a long time: why I often feel safer here in Bosnia and Herzegovina than I do in London.

This is not a simple comparison between one place being good and the other bad. London is one of the great cities of the world, full of energy, culture, opportunity, and life. Bosnia is not perfect either. It has its frustrations, its difficult politics, its bureaucracy, and its real everyday struggles.

But safety is not only about crime statistics, systems, cameras, or official structures.

Sometimes safety is about how a place makes your body feel.

It is about whether your shoulders drop. Whether you can walk slowly. Whether people notice you. Whether the road home feels familiar. Whether a cup of coffee is more than just a drink.

In Bosnia, especially in smaller communities, I often feel less invisible. People notice who you are, where you live, when you walk, and whether something seems out of place. That can sometimes feel a little suffocating, but it can also create an informal safety net — a quiet, human form of protection.

In this episode, I talk about ageing, belonging, village life, London, emotional safety, and the difference between being watched and being truly noticed.

For me, Bosnia offers something I value more and more at this stage of life: connection.

Not perfection, not certainty, but a sense of being held by place, rhythm, and community.

Maybe safety is not always about living somewhere with the most polished systems or the biggest economy.

Maybe safety is also about living somewhere where your life has edges you can recognise.

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