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Why Won't You Apologize?

Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts

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Why Won't You Apologize?

By: Harriet Lerner PhD
Narrated by: Cassandra Campbell
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 “If you want to know why Harriet Lerner is one of my great heroes, Why Won’t You Apologize? is the answer. This book is a game changer.” —Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Rising Strong

“Harriet Lerner is one hell of a wise woman. She draws you in with deft and engaging prose and then changes your life with her rigorous intelligence and her deeply human advice. I promise that you will never see ‘the apology’ in quite the same way.” —Esther Perel, MA, LMFT, author of Mating in Captivity

Renowned psychologist and bestselling author of The Dance of Anger sheds new light on the power of a sincere apology—those two essential words, “I’m sorry”—and how apologizing can repair relationships, resolve conflict, and restore trust. In this insightful guide to emotional healing and relationship repair, Dr. Harriet Lerner offers a clear and compassionate perspective on why apologies are so difficult to give and why they matter so deeply.

Dr. Harriet Lerner has been studying apologies—and why some people refuse to apologize—for more than two decades. Through compelling stories and grounded psychological insight, she shows how meaningful apologies can rebuild trust, repair damaged relationships, and promote genuine healing. Readers learn how to craft a heartfelt “I’m sorry,” recognize ineffective or manipulative apologies, and avoid the kinds of apologies that deepen hurt instead of resolving it.

Why Won’t You Apologize? also addresses the needs of the injured party—the person hurt by someone who will not apologize, tell the truth, or show remorse. Lerner explores what drives both the chronic non-apologizer and the over-apologizer, and why the people who cause the greatest harm are often least able to take responsibility. She helps readers resist pressure to forgive too quickly and challenges the popular belief that forgiveness is the only path to peace of mind. With trademark humor, warmth, and psychological wisdom, Lerner offers a practical and empowering guide to repairing relationships, setting healthy boundaries, and making things right. Conflict Resolution Marriage & Long-Term Partnerships Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Relationships Social Sciences Sociology Witty Science Communication
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Another great book by Harriet Lerner. I’ll be listening many times over- I wish I’d been taught this stuff years ago.

Great, great, great

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A life changing book, gentle, packed with wisdom, provoking deep reflection and bringing clarity to previously puzzling situations and behaviors.

Extraordinary, transformational!

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This book is fabulous. I love Harriet's work and this one does not disappoint. once you know the difference between a genuine apology and a fake one you won't be able to unknow that. so don't read if you don't want to learn this stuff. lol.

Well done and thankyou

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Insightful discussion of what to say and how to speak to the hurt caused. No excuses.

Dealing with difficult conversations

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I highly recommend this book. It has helped me a lot to make sense of a bad relationship and broken relation with family members. i have been recommending this book to a few people. I have learnt a lot!!!

This book is AWESOME!!!

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