You can run a life that looks competent from the outside while the private functional domain — taxes, invoicing, paperwork, the relationship with yourself — quietly falls apart behind closed doors. That split is not a discipline problem. It is an audience problem. In this episode, I introduce a single discerning question I want you carrying with you — Is there an audience for this task? — and walk through what it reveals about the Part of you that has learned to perform competence outwardly while leaving the unwitnessed loops open. We work through the backstage of the Broadway show your life has become, why mainstream priority advice has it backwards, and the difference between priorities and the systems that hold them. If you have ever said I can keep up with everyone else's expectations but I cannot keep up with my own life, this episode was made for you.

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About Dr. Tanner Wallace

Tanner Wallace, PhD and Level 3 IFS Practitioner, is the founder of CPTSD Medicine and the author of the CPTSD Medicine Healing Protocol, a proprietary applied mental health training curriculum that teaches HouseHolder CycleBreakers to resolve complex relational trauma at the root. A former tenured professor of health and human development, she left academia to build the services she could not find as a childhood trauma survivor diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder: a structured six-month container that trains humans to become their own best intervention scientists. Inside her signature container, Happily Ever After, she works with a small number of students to resolve, not manage, their CPTSD.

About the Podcast

Heal First, Then Pick Your Life Partner is for high-functioning adults with complex trauma who are tired of repeating painful relationship patterns. If you perform well professionally but struggle intensely in your closest relationships, this podcast helps you see why.

Each episode takes an ordinary moment of adult life — attending a family wedding, going through old photographs, ending a relationship, writing a holiday card, having a hard conversation with someone you love — and shows you what's actually happening underneath it through the lens of complex trauma. You'll hear my take on the lived experience of CPTSD, drawn from five years of building a proprietary trauma resolution curriculum and from my own work as a survivor who no longer qualifies for the diagnoses I once did.

This is diagnostic, declarative, and unlike anything else in the CPTSD space. Hosted by Dr. Tanner Wallace, PhD, founder of CPTSD Medicine.