If you've ever been told to "just stop caring what people think" - this video explains why that advice fails, and what's actually driving social anxiety underneath.

In this video, I cover:

- Why confident people aren't indifferent to judgment - they just don't experience it as a threat

- The four core beliefs that sit underneath social anxiety (unworthy, not good enough, unloveable, unlikeable)

- Why social anxiety and depression so often show up together

- What exposure therapy is actually testing - and why safety behaviours ruin the result

- The behavioural markers I look for near the end of treatment

In 12 years working with people with anxiety what I see underneath social anxiety almost every time isn't about other people at all - it's about what you already believe about yourself.

TIMESTAMPS:

0:00 - Introduction

1:30 - Why "just stop caring" fails

3:00 - The core beliefs underneath social anxiety

5:00 - Why safety behaviours make sense (but keep you stuck)

6:30 - Why social anxiety and depression go together

8:00 - What actually works: exposure without safety behaviours

10:30 - Taking up your allocated space

12:00 - EMDR and working on the back-end

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