EPISODE TITLE: Why You Can't Love Like Christ Yet — And What Your Wounds Have to Do With It (How Fiery Trials Lead Us Into More Christ-like Love)

This week I'm doing something a little different - I'm sharing a message I gave at church on May 31st, 2026, for our worship night.

And it might be the most personal thing I've shared publicly to a congregation (excluding when I share my testimony for recovery meetings!)

As a trauma therapist and faith-based relationship coach, I sit across from Christians every week who love Jesus, pray, go to church, do all the "right" things - and still can't seem to access the peace, love, and freedom Christ promised. This episode is my attempt to bridge that gap: between neuroscience and Scripture, between head knowledge and heart transformation.

I share my own story - growing up without a father, addiction and abuse in my home, getting saved at 19, and what it's actually taken to heal (not just cope).

I also get real about my marriage, attachment wounds, and why the fiery trial you're in right now might be the very doorway God is using to bring you into deeper freedom.

In this episode, you'll discover: Why coping strategies alone will never bring true freedom - and what Jesus actually came to do

The HHOW acronym: Humility, Honesty, Open-mindedness, and Willingness

Four heart conditions that block love: wounded, anxious, bitter, and hardened How your early attachment style is still quietly driving the way you love today Why marriage is "the great exposer" — and why that's actually a gift from God Defense mechanisms we share with the animal kingdom (and how to move past them)

The gift of desperation: why fiery trials are often the doorway to transformation

Why vulnerability — not strength — is the path to more of what Christ has for you

Scriptures Referenced: 1 Corinthians 13 | 1 John 4:7 | Romans 12:1 | Isaiah 61:3 | John 16:33 | Genesis 2:17-18 | Genesis 3 | Genesis 50:20 | Deuteronomy 31:6 | 2 Corinthians 12:9 | Romans 8:28 | Matthew 22:37-39

Note: Next week we return to Episode 3 of our spiritual warfare series - The Strategy of Enemy Attacks. See you then.

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