Grief is often associated with sadness or bereavement. But it doesn’t always show up that way.

In this episode, I explore grief from a somatic perspective and how it lives in the nervous system, not just the mind. You might experience grief as exhaustion, heaviness, brain fog, or a loss of motivation, without realising that grief is what’s underneath.

We look at why grief can feel so physical, how it affects your ability to function, and why it often goes unrecognised when it doesn’t fit the usual idea of mourning.

This episode may help you understand your experience differently and bring a little more compassion to what your body is going through.

If this meant something to you, you might also find it helpful to explore my episodes on emotional eating, nervous system regulation, and relationships, where these patterns are often closely connected.

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Cravings aren’t weakness. They’re chemistry.

In this episode, I explain what a craving actually is, how urges form through the brain’s reward system, and what genuinely weakens them over time. Not through force. Not through guilt. But through nervous system learning and awareness.

This podcast explores emotional eating, stress addiction, unhealthy relationship patterns, and nervous system regulation.

If you listened to my recent episode on addiction and willpower, this builds on that conversation. Understanding cravings changes how you respond to unhealthy compulsions or addiction.

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In this episode, we explore dopamine, stress, cravings, the return of natural joy, and why recovery isn’t about willpower.

Last time, we explored why insight on its own doesn’t create change. This time, we go deeper.

If you understand your pattern but still find yourself going back - to food, scrolling, overwork, alcohol, a person - this episode explains why.

Addiction and compulsion aren’t about weakness.
They’re about stress, wiring, and reinforcement.

In this episode I talk about:

• Why the brain returns to what “works”
• How dopamine reinforces the loop
• Why withdrawal feels so convincing
• What happens to your natural joy when you rely on external hits
• And how recovery actually begins - not through restriction, but through awareness and values-based decisions

I also share personally about my long relationship with caffeine. Not as a moral battle, but as a shift from denial to informed choice.

Recovery isn’t about denying pleasure.
It’s about not denying reality.

When you understand what the behaviour gives you, and what it quietly costs, something shifts. that’s where real change begins.

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A lot of people feel they understand what’s going on for them… but are frustrated that still nothing actually changes.

In this episode, I explore why insight on its own often isn’t enough, especially when the nervous system is already overwhelmed, shut down, or under strain.

January can intensify this pattern. Fatigue, illness, social pressure, comparison, grief, financial stress, and lack of light all place extra demands on the system. At the very moment we’re most depleted, we’re encouraged to push harder, get disciplined, and overhaul our lives.

That approach often backfires.

In this podcast, I talk about:

• why struggling to change isn’t a willpower or motivation problem
• how overthinking can increase shutdown rather than create movement
• why procrastination is often overwhelm, not avoidance
• and what actually helps changes begin to take hold

I also guide a couple of short self-reflection pauses, not to “fix” anything, but to shift attention out of analysis and into awareness.

If change feels hard right now, this episode offers a different way of understanding what’s happening. One that’s kinder, more realistic, and more effective.

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It's normal for most of us to struggle with procrastination. But if you started a diet or exercise regime in the New Year and now struggle to keep it going, it might be because you didn't understand what was going on for you. There are reasons for procrastination and it can be stopped! In ​today's podcast​, I'm going to show you how 'failing' can help you.

We'll look at:

• Why you lose control and how to regain it
• The origins of self-control in your brain
• Recognising how stress, tiredness, and distraction stop you taking control
• Retraining your brain to take action
• I'll also share my experiences with impulse buying & how I stop myself

We'll discuss the small steps that add up to a big change.

Prefer to watch this episode on YouTube? You can watch it here.

Citations
Kelly McGonigal - The Willpower Instinct

Another podcast for you: 10 Ways to Overcome Anxiety

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Christmas can bring up stress in ways that feel confusing and unexpected.

Even when life feels stable, family time can activate old patterns, roles, and emotional responses that belong to much earlier chapters of our lives.

In this Christmas episode, somatic psychotherapist Shelley Treacher explores why family stress often intensifies at Christmas, how the nervous system remembers familiar environments, and why slowing down can feel surprisingly difficult at this time of year.

The episode includes a short public-domain fable, The Town Mouse and the Country Mouse, as a gentle reflection on safety, stimulation, and why calm matters. Shelley also shares personal reflections on learning to slow down, noticing urgency in the body, and how regulation often begins in very small steps.

This episode is for anyone who feels more reactive, tired, or unsettled around family at Christmas. Also for you if you want a compassionate, body-based understanding of what’s happening.

Here's another Christmas episode you may relate to: The Pressure to be Cheerful at Christmas. A Real Talk Christmas Podcast

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Feeling overwhelmed is not a sign of weakness or over-sensitivity. It’s your body trying to protect you.

In this episode, I guide you through three easy somatic exercises for overwhelm. Each one helps you regulate your nervous system and feel safe again. You’ll come home to your body and the support beneath you, so you can feel clearer and stronger.

You can use this episode when:
• You feel overwhelmed or flooded
• You’re stressed, anxious, or overloaded
• You’ve been holding everything together for too long
• You need a moment to feel comforted and connected again

💚 Shelley
Somatic Psychotherapist, BACP Senior Accredited
https://www.bristolcounselling.co.uk/stress-anxiety-podcasts/

Your next episode: Coping with Anxiety: 10 Somatic Ways to Calm Overthinking

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Learn why early survival patterns repeat in love, and how to reconnect with your true self through somatic awareness.
In this episode, Shelley Treacher explains how early survival patterns can quietly take over in relationships.
Through the story of a woman who learned to find her voice after years of self-silencing, Shelley explores how somatic therapy helps us reconnect with our bodies, recognise old defences, and rebuild authentic connection.

You’ll learn:

• Why conflict triggers old fear responses
• How shrinking to keep the peace starts as protection, not weakness
• What happens when one person changes their energy in a relationship
• How to stay connected to yourself - even when love feels shaky

This is the heart of relationship therapy - finding steadiness inside, while staying open to connection.

Watch the related video: Stop Losing Yourself in Love

Explore more relationship episodes: bristolcounselling.co.uk/relationships

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