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Dear Dr. Tracy

Dear Dr. Tracy

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Welcome to Dear Dr. Tracy, the podcast that helps you navigate the everyday challenges of relationships, marriage, and parenting with expert advice and real, relatable conversations. Hosted by clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, this podcast is your place for honest, no-nonsense guidance on love, intimacy, boundaries, and communication. With over 18 years of experience, Dr. Tracy brings a mix of clinical expertise, evidence-based research, and personal insights as a wife and mother to help you break unhealthy patterns and build stronger connections. Each week, Dr. Tracy answers the questions so many of us have but don’t always know how to ask—about resentment, desire, mental load, and how to truly feel like a team with your partner. She’s joined by fellow experts, real couples, and her husband Greg, who offers a down-to-earth perspective on the struggles so many relationships face. If you’re ready for actionable tools and heartfelt conversations that will help you create a relationship that feels fulfilling, this podcast is for you.Cloud10 Hygiene & Healthy Living Personal Development Personal Success Psychology Psychology & Mental Health
Episodes
  • Are You an Internalizer or an Externalizer?

    Are You an Internalizer or an Externalizer?
    Jun 28 2026
    Why do some people shut down when they're hurt while others immediately criticize, blame, or demand a response?In this episode, Dr. Tracy introduces two common ways people respond to emotional pain: internalizing and externalizing.When something difficult happens in a relationship, some people turn inward, questioning themselves, minimizing their needs, or carrying the hurt alone. Others turn outward, focusing on what their partner did wrong and expressing their pain through criticism, frustration, or blame.The challenge is that neither approach helps us communicate the deeper feelings underneath.Dr. Tracy explores how these patterns show up in relationships, why they often create disconnection, and how understanding your default response can help you communicate more effectively with your partner.This episode is a powerful follow-up to last week's conversation about defensiveness and offers another lens for understanding the negative cycles that keep couples stuck. 📎 MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Be Connected — 24/7 relationship support, including Dr. Tracy AI trained on Tracy's clinical work. Get real answers in the moment, even when your partner won't do the work with you. 🔗 WANT TO GO DEEPER? Understand what you need to repair in your relationship. 2 minutes. Your partner will know exactly what to say. One spot left for a couples intensive with Dr. Tracy — a 2-day deep dive designed for couples who are stuck and not seeing results from weekly therapy. In-person or she travels to you. Free Resource: Challenge Your Assumptions and Perceptions Get your question answered here on the podcast. Submit them here. Read the book: ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Get exclusive 1:1 support with Dr. Tracy. Find out more here.. Not sure where to start? Find your relationship's negative cycle — free quiz here. Is your partner defensive? Download my FREE scripts to respond to a defensive partner. Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📲 FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to You Tube Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    10 mins
  • What to Say When Your Partner Gets Defensive

    What to Say When Your Partner Gets Defensive
    Jun 25 2026
    If you've ever walked away from a conversation feeling like your concerns got completely lost in your partner's defensiveness, this episode is for you.Dr. Tracy shares a real-life conversation she recently had with Greg and breaks down exactly what happened when a difficult discussion could have spiraled into their old negative cycle, but didn't.Instead of focusing on how to change a defensive partner, this episode explores what you can do when defensiveness shows up, how to stay grounded in your experience, and how to keep the conversation focused on impact rather than intention.In This Episode:•Why defensiveness isn't always manipulation or gaslighting•How couples accidentally lose the original issue•The difference between impact and intent•Why repair requires taking turns•What assertiveness sounds like in real conversations•The exact phrases Dr. Tracy used with Greg•How to stop getting pulled into the cycleYou'll also learn why boundaries don't have to shut conversations down and how delaying a conversation can sometimes protect connection rather than damage it.If you're tired of conversations that leave you feeling unseen, unheard, or stuck defending your own experience, this episode offers a practical roadmap for navigating defensiveness without losing yourself in the process. 📎 MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Be Connected — 24/7 relationship support, including Dr. Tracy AI trained on Tracy's clinical work. Get real answers in the moment, even when your partner won't do the work with you. Understand what you need to repair in your relationship. 2 minutes. Your partner will know exactly what to say. One spot left for a couples intensive with Dr. Tracy — a 2-day deep dive designed for couples who are stuck and not seeing results from weekly therapy. In-person or she travels to you. Free Resource: Challenge Your Assumptions and Perceptions 🔗 WANT TO GO DEEPER? Free Resource: Challenge Your Assumptions and Perceptions Get your question answered here on the podcast. Submit them here. Read the book: ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Get exclusive 1:1 support with Dr. Tracy. Find out more here.. Not sure where to start? Find your relationship's negative cycle — free quiz here. Is your partner defensive? Download my FREE scripts to respond to a defensive partner. Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📲 FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to You Tube Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    26 mins
  • Why Men Get Stuck in Relationship Narratives

    Why Men Get Stuck in Relationship Narratives
    Jun 21 2026
    Have you ever assumed you already knew how your partner was going to react? In this special episode, Greg takes over the mic to share a husband's perspective on one of the biggest traps couples fall into: getting stuck in outdated stories about the people we love. Drawing from his own experiences navigating marriage, parenting, dirt biking, golf, and family life, Greg explores how old assumptions can quietly create resentment, avoidance, and disconnection. If you've ever caught yourself thinking:"I already know how this conversation is going to go.""There's no point bringing it up.""Why bother asking?"...this episode is for you. 📎 MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Free Resource: Challenge Your Assumptions and Perceptions 🔗 WANT TO GO DEEPER? Be Connected — 24/7 relationship support, including Dr. Tracy AI trained on Tracy's clinical work. Get real answers in the moment, even when your partner won't do the work with you. Get your question answered here on the podcast. Submit them here. One spot left for a couples intensive with Dr. Tracy — a 2-day deep dive designed for couples who are stuck and not seeing results from weekly therapy. In-person or she travels to you. Read the book: ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Get exclusive 1:1 support with Dr. Tracy. Find out more here.. Not sure where to start? Find your relationship's negative cycle — free quiz here. Understand what you need to repair in your relationship. 2 minutes. Your partner will know exactly what to say. Is your partner defensive? Download my FREE scripts to respond to a defensive partner. Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📲 FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to You Tube Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    10 mins
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