Charles Grimes has spent nearly 30 years as a business psychologist, helping leaders understand themselves so they could lead others well. But he’s also been trying to understand himself, with therapy, courses, and numerous self-assessment tools. But it wasn't until he was 65 — when a friend made a casual, throwaway comment — that the missing piece finally clicked into place. He had Asperger's. The diagnosis didn't feel like bad news. It felt like freedom.

• What his friend said that set the whole thing in motion and why he didn't dismiss it
• What "masking" is, and the exhausting work of hiding in plain sight for decades
• The conductor who walked into rehearsal and transformed a mediocre choir without saying a word - and what this has to do with leadership
• What fell into place when he looked back at his life through the new lens of his diagnosis
• Learning about love and connection later in life — and why he thinks it's never too late

• A Question of Leadership by Charles Grimes
• The National Autistic Society — where Charles went for his formal assessment

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