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Grief is the New Normal Podcast: S3E21 Why Am I Acting Like A Completely Different Person? Where Grief Shows Up in What You Do

Grief is the New Normal Podcast: S3E21 Why Am I Acting Like A Completely Different Person? Where Grief Shows Up in What You Do

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Behavioral Grief Reactions: Why Grief Changes What You Do, Not Just How You Feel You have been saying yes to everything because stopping feels terrifying. You have not responded to a text in two weeks. You reorganized the closet three times this month. You are on your second bottle of wine more nights than you want to admit. You got the tattoo. That is not you being impulsive, flaky, or self-destructive. That is grief taking the wheel. In episode four of the six-part Common Grief Reactions series, Dr. Heather Taylor gets into the behavioral side of grief, the part that shows up in your daily habits, your relationships, your phone, your pantry, and your couch. The part that tends to carry the most shame and gets explained away as stress or a personality change or just a weird phase, when really it is grief trying to metabolize itself through action, avoidance, or control. If you have ever looked at what you have been doing since your loss and thought "what is wrong with me," this episode is for you. Nothing is wrong with you. You are grieving, and those two things explain a lot. In this episode you will learn: Why grief changes not just how you feel but what you actually doThe two ends of the behavioral grief spectrum: over-functioning and under-functioning, and why both are protectiveWhy most grieving people cycle between both and what that cycling actually looks likeThe most common numbing behaviors in grief, including alcohol use, doom scrolling, impulse decisions, and perpetual busyness, and why none of them are moral failuresHow to tell the difference between coping and avoidance, and why that distinction mattersWhy staying perpetually busy is one of the most sophisticated and culturally approved numbing behaviors we haveHow to get curious about your grief behaviors without shaming yourself for any of themThe one question to ask yourself when you want to understand what a behavior is really about Behavioral grief patterns discussed in this episode: Over-functioning, under-functioning, grief avoidance, numbing behaviors, alcohol use after loss, doom scrolling, impulse decisions, isolation, social withdrawal, grief and anger, grief and irritability, busyness as avoidance, grief coping strategies, grief behaviors, grief and control Story Time with Heather: Dr. Taylor shares what happened the week after her brother died, when she poured herself and her whole grieving family into making holiday gift card aprons for Barnes and Noble, and what it taught her about over-functioning as a grief response. She also talks about her depression slippers, the one-year anniversary, and what it looked like when the over-functioning finally gave way. STAY Framework connection: This episode works with two letters. T, Track the Loss, which means tracing a behavior back to its source and asking what loss is actually underneath it. And Y, Yield to the Moment, which means responding to what is genuinely needed right now, not what your pre-grief self would have done or what the productivity app on your phone is telling you to do. Practical tools from this episode: Replace judgment with curiosity: shift from "what is wrong with me" to "what is my grief asking for right now"Pick one small anchoring habit to create a thread of predictability in an unpredictable seasonName the behavior as grief out loud: "I am not flaky, I am grieving"Ask the core question: is this behavior helping me move through grief or helping me move away from it? Series navigation: Episode 1: Physical Grief Reactions: When Loss Lives in the BodyEpisode 2: Emotional Grief Reactions: The Feelings Nobody Puts in a Sympathy CardEpisode 3: Cognitive Grief Reactions: Grief Brain Is RealEpisode 4: Behavioral Grief Reactions: Why Grief Changes What You Do (you are here)Episode 5: Spiritual and Existential Grief Reactions (coming next)Episode 6: Social Grief Reactions ------------------------------------- Grief is not a problem to solve. It is a human experience to move through, and most of us were never taught how. Grief is the New Normal is hosted by Dr. Heather Taylor, licensed psychologist and grief specialist with over a decade of experience in grief, trauma, and reproductive psychology. This show exists to change the conversation around loss by expanding what grief looks like, who it belongs to, and what it actually means to integrate it into your life. Whether you're grieving a death, a diagnosis, a relationship, an identity shift, or the world as you knew it, your grief is real, it deserves space, and you are not behind. And if you're a clinician, coach, or helper carrying your own grief while holding space for others, this show was built for you too. Dr. Taylor brings research-informed frameworks, honest clinical perspective, and the STAY framework, a grief-informed approach to living with loss that goes far beyond the five stages. Expect nuance, depth, and conversations that take grief seriously. No toxic positivity. No fixing. Just honest conversation, ...
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