In this episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes sits down with Grammy-nominated producer Paul Jeffries aka Nineteen85 (of DVSN) for a powerful conversation on fatherhood, parenting, and personal growth. Reflecting on his journey as a young and single dad, Paul opens up about navigating parental expectations [01:20], embracing the idea of disappointing your parents as a path to self-discovery [02:44] [06:24], and unpacking generational differences in parenting styles [10:22]. This episode dives into how modern parents can create space for growth, grace, and understanding [21:28] [25:08].

Paul shares honest insights on navigating early parenthood [33:32], breaking generational cycles [49:24], and the role of therapy in personal growth [55:29], while emphasizing the importance of empowering children to find and use their voices [01:00:43]. This episode offers real-life perspective and actionable wisdom for anyone looking to raise healthier families and become a better version of themselves.

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In this solo episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes dives deep into self-discovery, identity, and personal growth (00:00), exploring what it means to reconnect with your true self after years of societal pressure and expectations. She reflects on how life experiences, setbacks, and external influences can reshape identity, often leading people to lose touch with their passions, creativity, and purpose (05:27). Through honest insight, Amber highlights the emotional weight of that disconnect and the importance of recognizing it as part of the journey (12:22).

Amber encourages listeners to embrace authenticity, reclaim their voice, and rediscover what genuinely brings them joy (21:52), emphasizing that today’s world allows for more freedom to evolve and live multifaceted lives. With practical reflection and empowering perspective, the episode serves as a reminder that growth requires courage, self-awareness, and a willingness to shed outdated versions of yourself in order to step fully into who you’re meant to be.

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In this episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes sits down with Grammy-winning artist Durand Bernarr for a heartfelt conversation about adult relationships, friendship dynamics, and personal growth. Durand opens up about the emotional challenges of friendship breakups, emphasizing the importance of accountability, communication, and honesty in maintaining meaningful connections. Together, they explore how life experiences shape the way we show up in relationships and why being clear about your needs is essential for long-term emotional health.

The conversation also dives into self-discovery, evolving friendships, and the difference between genuine support and surface-level connections, highlighting the distinction between real friends and fans. Amber and Duran discuss how change is inevitable and how letting go of certain relationships can be a necessary step toward growth. With vulnerability and insight, the episode encourages listeners to prioritize authentic relationships, practice emotional awareness, and embrace personal evolution.

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