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MBT EN – Understanding Mentalization-Based Treatment

MBT EN – Understanding Mentalization-Based Treatment

By: Jasper Manders
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MBT – An Introduction to Mentalization-Based Treatment Discover how understanding your own mind — and the minds of others — can transform relationships, emotions, and self-awareness. This podcast series guides you through the 11 sessions of Mentalization-Based Treatment for adults, offering insight, reflection, and practical ways to strengthen your ability to mentalize.Jasper Manders Science Social Sciences
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  • #35: MBT Group Therapy > Between Frustration and Connection

    #35: MBT Group Therapy > Between Frustration and Connection
    Jun 28 2026

    🎙️ Group Session – “Between Frustration and Connection”


    Welcome to this episode of the MBT podcast.


    In this episode, we step inside an MBT group therapy session where what appears to be an ordinary everyday event unexpectedly develops into a deeper conversation about boundaries, recognition, and the ways old patterns continue to shape our reactions.


    Sometimes the situation itself is small.


    A remark.


    A rule.


    An encounter.


    Yet what happens inside us can be far greater than the event itself.


    Today, we listen to a group exploring how quickly old feelings of injustice, rejection, and not being taken seriously can be reawakened.


    And perhaps more importantly:


    What happens when you try to stay curious about yourself, while every instinct tells you to react?


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    🧠 What is central in this episode


    When something small touches something much bigger


    Sometimes the event itself is not the real issue.


    Instead, it touches something much older.


    A feeling of not being seen.


    Not being heard.


    Or the experience that someone else has the power to decide what is right for you.


    In this session, the group explores why seemingly small situations can create such powerful emotional reactions.


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    Boundaries and responsibility


    A central theme in this episode is responsibility.


    Whose problem is it?


    What belongs to me?


    And what belongs to someone else?


    The group explores how difficult it can be to find a healthy balance between caring for yourself and carrying responsibility that was never yours.


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    Reacting or first understanding?


    When emotions rise, the natural impulse is often to react immediately.


    But what happens when you first become curious about what is happening inside yourself?


    And what changes when you become curious about the other person without losing yourself in the process?


    It is in that pause that something new begins to emerge.


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    Patterns that keep repeating


    As the conversation unfolds, several group members begin to recognize old protective strategies that still shape their relationships today.


    Withdrawing.


    Attacking.


    Keeping distance before someone else can.


    Patterns that once helped them survive, but now sometimes stand in the way of genuine connection.


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    Therapy that challenges growth


    Alongside the personal themes, the group also reflects openly on the therapy itself.


    What do you actually need in order to grow?


    When does guidance feel supportive?


    And when should therapy challenge, confront, and encourage you to move beyond your comfort zone?


    The discussion shows that these questions are also an important part of the therapeutic process.


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    🌟 The common thread


    The common thread in this episode is that the greatest emotional reactions are often not caused by the event itself, but by the meaning our past gives to it.


    Mentalizing helps us recognize that difference.


    Not by pushing feelings away.


    But by becoming curious about what has truly been touched.


    And it is there that new ways of responding begin to emerge.


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    💬 Closing


    This episode shows that personal growth is not created only through difficult conversations.


    It also begins with the willingness to pause and explore what lies beneath them.


    Sometimes change starts not with an answer…


    but with one honest question:


    “What is really being touched inside me… and why?”
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    39 mins
  • #34: MBT 1 on 1 Therapy > Between Loyalty and Safety

    #34: MBT 1 on 1 Therapy > Between Loyalty and Safety
    Jun 25 2026
    🎙️ Special Episode – “Between Loyalty and Safety”Welcome to this special episode of the MBT podcast.In this episode, we once again step inside a one-on-one therapy session — a place where memories, emotions, and patterns come together in ways that often only become visible when we are willing to truly pause and look.What unfolds in this session will feel familiar to many people.Sometimes something happens in the present that unexpectedly opens a door to the past.A feeling.A reaction.A tension that seems much bigger than the moment itself.And suddenly, something old is touched.Today, we listen to a conversation in which it becomes clear how experiences from childhood can continue to influence relationships, safety, and the way we connect with other people.And perhaps more importantly:What happens when, for the first time, you return to that moment — not as the child who had to endure it, but as the adult who can now stand beside that child?⸻🧠 What is central in this episodeWhen the past finds its way backSometimes we believe something is behind us.Until a situation in the present suddenly brings back the same emotions.In this session, a connection emerges between an experience in the therapy group and a childhood memory.A memory filled with tension, powerlessness, and a deep sense of unsafety.⸻Loyalty as a survival strategyA central theme in this episode is loyalty.The loyalty of a child toward parents.The loyalty toward brothers and sisters.But also the kind of loyalty that causes you to put yourself aside in order to preserve connection with others.When does loyalty become something beautiful?And when does it begin to cost more than it gives?⸻The need for safetyBeneath many behaviors lies a deep need for safety.Safety to be yourself.Safety to feel what you feel.Safety to stop being constantly alert to what might happen next.This session explores how important that safety once was — and how strongly its absence can continue to shape a person’s life.⸻The child and the adultWhat happens when, as an adult, you look back at a moment when you had no control?When you meet the younger version of yourself at a time when fear, helplessness, and loneliness were overwhelming?This session explores what it is like not only to revisit that memory, but also to bring something new into it.⸻Allowing emotions to existAs the conversation unfolds, more space begins to emerge for emotions that have been kept at a distance for a very long time.Not by pushing them away.Not by analyzing them.But by simply allowing them to be there.And that turns out to be more difficult — and more meaningful — than it first appears.⸻What did I actually need?Perhaps the most important question in this session is:What did I need back then?Not what happened.Not who was right or wrong.But what was missing.What a child needed in order to feel safe, seen, and protected.⸻🌟 The common threadThe common thread in this episode is the search for safety.Not only safety in the outside world.But safety within yourself.The safety to feel.The safety to be vulnerable.And the safety to acknowledge that some experiences continue to shape who you are today.Mentalizing helps with that process.Not by moving away from difficult feelings.But by staying curious about where they come from.⸻💬 ClosingThis episode shows that old memories do not disappear simply because time passes.Sometimes they remain present in places we do not expect.But when we can approach those memories with curiosity and compassion, something begins to shift.Not because the past changes.But because our relationship to it can change.And sometimes healing begins with one simple message:“You were alone back then… but you are not alone anymore.”
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    20 mins
  • #33: MBT Group Therapy > When the Past Suddenly Feels Close Again

    #33: MBT Group Therapy > When the Past Suddenly Feels Close Again
    Jun 19 2026
    🎙️ Special Episode – “When the Past Suddenly Feels Close Again”Welcome to this special episode of the MBT podcast.In this episode, we once again step inside an MBT group therapy session — a place where personal stories intersect, where people affect one another in unexpected ways, and where experiences from the past can suddenly become very present.What unfolds in this session will be familiar to many people.A conversation.A disagreement.A reaction.A moment that seems ordinary on the surface.And yet, something much deeper is touched.Today, we listen to a group in which old feelings of insecurity, fear, vulnerability, and emotional survival begin to emerge in ways that surprise even the people experiencing them.And perhaps more importantly:What happens when those feelings are finally seen?⸻🧠 What is central in this episodeWhen old feelings are triggered againSometimes a situation appears small from the outside.But inside, something much bigger happens.A feeling that belongs not only to the present moment, but also to the past.A reaction that seems stronger than the situation itself.In this session, group members explore how experiences from long ago can suddenly reappear through events happening today.⸻The experience of feeling unsafeA powerful theme throughout this episode is emotional safety.What happens when tension rises between people?When conflict appears?When voices become stronger?Or when it feels as though a situation may spiral out of control?For some members of the group, these moments awaken feelings that reach far beyond the here and now.⸻The importance of being seenAnother central theme is recognition.Not fixing.Not solving.Not changing the past.But simply being seen.Sometimes a single moment of understanding from another person can have more impact than any advice.Because it confirms something deeply important:What you felt was real.⸻Old survival strategiesThe group also reflects on the ways people learned to survive difficult situations earlier in life.Becoming invisible.Staying quiet.Keeping the peace.Walking away.Pretending everything is fine.Strategies that once helped people cope, but which may still automatically appear when emotions become intense.⸻The power of recognitionOne of the most moving aspects of this session is the way group members begin to recognize parts of themselves in one another.Not because their stories are identical.But because the emotions underneath those stories feel surprisingly familiar.And through that recognition comes something many people have been missing for a long time:The feeling of not being alone.⸻Staying curious about what is happeningRather than rushing to conclusions or solutions, the group creates space for something else.Curiosity.What is happening inside me?Why does this affect me so strongly?And what might this tell me about my past and my present?⸻🌟 The common threadThe common thread in this episode is that the past is not always gone.Sometimes it continues to live on through emotions, reactions, and patterns that become activated when something familiar is touched.Mentalizing helps us slow down when that happens.To pause.To stay curious.And to explore what is really happening — within ourselves and between people.⸻💬 ClosingThis episode shows that old pain is not always visible.Sometimes it hides behind silence.Behind anger.Behind withdrawal.Or behind the need to keep going as if nothing happened.But when those experiences are shared and recognized by others, something begins to change.Not because the past disappears.But because you no longer have to carry it alone.And sometimes healing begins with one simple experience:“What I felt was real… and someone else could see it too.”
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    30 mins
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