We’ve optimized our routines, romanticized our habits, and vision-boarded our way into oblivion—but somehow, we’re still not actually… enjoying ourselves.

This week, we’re talking about pleasure—not as a reward, but as the point. The thing we keep skipping, outsourcing, or saving for later.

Because what if it’s not that you’re not doing enough… it’s that you’re not feeling enough?

We get into manifestation vs. embodiment, the disconnect between productivity and pleasure, and why reconnecting to your body might be the most radical (and effective) move you can make.

Yes, we talk about the Big O—but also everything it represents: presence, desire, agency, and actually being in your life while you’re living it.

About Venus O’Hara:

Venus O’Hara is an author, speaker, and orgasmic manifestation expert exploring the intersection of pleasure, power, and self-awareness. Through her work, she encourages women to reconnect with their bodies and redefine their relationship to desire, intimacy, and fulfillment.

Follow: @venusohara

About Cher Martinetti:

Cher Martinetti is a writer, editor, and creative strategist working at the intersection of pop culture, reinvention, and women’s stories. A former founding editor of SYFY’s FANGRRLS, she now builds content and community across media—telling women’s stories the way they actually feel. She hosts Midlife Vices, where nothing is off-limits and everything’s up for reconsideration.

Follow: @thecherness

About SHAG:

SHAG is a Brooklyn-based sex shop and erotic art space offering a curated mix of pleasure products, lingerie, self-care, and thoughtfully designed gifts. Beyond retail, SHAG also produces editorial content, workshops, and community programming centered on sexual wellness and exploration.

Follow: @weloveshag

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@midlifevicespod

Whether you’re a parent, a non-parent, wanted kids, didn’t want kids, or are still figuring it out — midlife hits everyone with a wild identity check.

In this episode, Breezy (the mom) and Cher (the non-mom) break down the judgment, the freedom, the grief, the hormonal chaos, and the midlife transformation that happens to ALL women, no matter their path.

From postpartum rolling straight into perimenopause, to navigating social pressure, to redefining legacy and womanhood, this is the conversation we’re finally having out loud.

Parent or not-parent — you’re still valid, still whole, and still a bad bitch.

We used to chase chaos; now we chase peace, sleep, and stable nervous systems. Breezy and Cher unpack the evolution from “fun girl” to boundary-setting, zero-bullshit grown woman—why we partied so hard, what it cost us, and how healing made us hotter than hangovers ever did.

Aging isn’t just wrinkles and night sweats—it’s a spiritual awakening where your tolerance for bullshit evaporates. We’re done caring about the wrong things, and honestly? It feels incredible. From friendships to work to aging bodies, Breezy and Cher dive into the zero-f*cks mindset that turns midlife into a glow-up—messy, funny, unfiltered.

Breaking Generational Taboos About Therapy, Meds & Mental Health.

In this episode, Breezy and Cher crack open the taboo: from antidepressants to ADHD meds, from therapy breakthroughs to childhood baggage we’re still dragging around. We talk about why so many of us were raised to “suck it up,” why we internalized shame around getting help, and how our generation is finally rewriting the script—out loud, with memes, meds, and a copay.

Expect: dark humor, real talk, a few hot takes, and zero judgment.

Whether you’re medicated, therapized, or just trying to survive the intrusive thoughts of 2025, this one’s for you.

We're baaaaccccckkkkkk!

Breezy and Cher reflect on some of the more ridiculous aspects of aging that they had no way of preparing for.

What happens when Breezy innocently asks Cher what her ADHD is like? It accidentally becomes a main topic in the ep. We could have edited or re-recorded this one, but sometimes chaotic convos are part of life.

We eventually get to what we meant to discuss: The Warped Tour, fillers, and facelifts.

Jane’s Addiction cancels their tour after Perry Farrel’s disturbing behavior. Plus: our first guest! Our friend Raquel Bruno joins us to share her path to motherhood and talk about how everything's changing all the time, including us.