In this episode, Christine shares a Needs-Based Protocol she's been working on. David and Hallie experiment with what emotions feel like in their bodies and how their emotions can be valuable messengers pointing to unmet needs.

Then, Christine leads Hallie and David in an exercise to assess a relationship, environment, or activity by scoring how well they support each of the 9 Universal Human Needs. Then we discuss brainstorming creative strategies to meet those needs ourselves as well as specific requests to make of others.

We welcome you to follow along in these experiments and offer feedback or questions in the comments. As we develop this protocol, your input is highly valuable.

0:00 Intro
0:10 Theme Song
0:37 Exercise Overview
4:45 Noticing Emotions
9:06 The Level Of Suffering
12:30 David's Emotions
15:21 Hallie's Emotions
18:47 The Nine Human Needs
23:29 David's Unmet Needs
25:04 Hallie's Unmet Needs
26:30 Meeting Our Needs
30:29 How Emotions Relate To Needs
35:34 Partner, Place Or Profession?
40:40 Rating Needs Being Met
44:50 High, Medium & Low Scores
50:05 Personally Meeting Our Needs
50:45 Specific Request Of Another Person
52:08 Creating Distance
53:30 Strategy Examples
1:02:34 Outro & Goodbyes
1:04:12 Theme Song
1:05:16 Like & Subscribe

In this episode of the Self Led Besties Podcast, Christine, Hallie and David speak for their active parts around the exclusion of non therapists from the IFSI training (yes, we still have parts processing the decision made 2 1/2 years ago!). We reference an article entitled "The Ethics of Using IFS in Coaching." Here is the link, if you'd like to read the article yourself: https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/blog/ethics-of-ifs-coaching

A main point in the article is that IFS is unique in its understanding that it is NOT the practitioner but the client's Self who is the healing agent in their system. So the question is NOT "Who is allowed to facilitate IFS?", but "Who does IFS assert is the healer?"

We discuss our distress over the conflict between therapists and non-therapists created by the exclusion and our desire to be united in the unique hope of IFS. We also discuss how much of mainstream therapy can end up reinforcing client's core wounds such as, "I am helpless," "something is wrong with me," etc. and how anyone with Self energy - a coach, friend, family member - can be supportive of our own Self tending to our parts, and that, ultimately, it is always Love that heals.

0:00 Intro
0:12 Theme Song
0:38 Discussion Intoduction
2:33 How Christine's Parts Responded
4:28 How David's Parts Responded
5:46 How Hallie's Parts Responded
10:42 Article Introduction
12:46 Article Reading
23:21 How Therapy Can Reinforce Wounds
29:59 The Importance Of Self-Energy
36:58 The Importance of Relationship
40:50 The Importance of Inner Work
43:26 The Importance Of Self-Led Friends
52:16 IFSI & Christianity
55:09 How Love Heals
59:53 A Beautiful Poem By Hallie
1:00:48 Closing & Goodbyes
1:01:34 Theme Song
1:02:35 Like & Subscribe!

In this episode, David leads Hallie and Christine (and you) through an exercise based on a beautiful gardening metaphor to bring curiosity and awareness to the relationships in our lives.

In the exercise, we imagine four flower beds - one each for seedling, deeply rooted flowering, withering, and dying relationships. We assess the time and energy we put into each type of relationship as well as listen to parts' fears and needs around the various stages of our relationships.

After the exercise, Christine and Hallie share about the insights they gained, and Hallie extends the metaphor in many wonderful ways.

If you participate in the exercise, we'd love to hear about your experience in the comment section!

0:00 Intro
0:10 Theme Song
0:34 Exercise Overview
2:01 Parts Check-In
3:17 Imagining The Garden
5:32 Noticing Four Flowerbeds
8:59 Energy & Effort Percentage
10:52 First Flowerbed - Seedlings & Saplings
13:42 Second Flowerbed - Evergreens
16:03 Third Flowerbed - Wilting & Withering
18:18 Fourth Flowerbed - Composting
20:42 Part's Insights?
21:15 Energy & Effort Change?
23:02 Bonus Question
23:44 Exercise Ending
24:20 Christine's Experience
35:54 Hallie's Experience
56:43 Relationship Discussion
1:10:36 Closing & Goodbyes
1:11:49 Theme Song
1:12:53 Like & Subscribe!