What was once the greatest setback in your life that has now become your greatest inspiration?

This letter is for the working mom who was a proud career woman — until she became a mother.

In this letter, Mia writes to her twin sons as an empty nester. She’s now honest about who she was when they were young, and the real struggle she faced as a career-driven woman to surrender to motherhood. She doesn’t shy away from acknowledging how much she had to compromise and the guilt and resentment that came with it. Yet, along the way through the growing pains of being a working mother, something unexpected happened.

If you’ve ever wondered whether you can be a devoted mother and still be the ambitious woman you were before, this letter was written for you.

Letter 189 is part of The Filipino American Woman Project’s letters series, inspired by real conversations.

This concludes our AAPI Heritage Month edition. Thanks for listening, and we’ll resume in the summer!

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Who’s that one person where you think: if only I were them, I could finally be who I’m meant to be?

In this letter, Mari grows up in the Philippines as “the white girl,” the only fair-skinned mestiza in her Filipino family. When her dad moves them to America, she’s excited to finally belong. But she finds herself sitting in an ESL class, staring into a mirror she doesn’t recognize herself in, and taking part in a years-long project of blending in.

Then, in college, a Filipino woman shows up in her social media feed — proud, loud, and unapologetically Pinay. And Mari cannot stand her. But every time this woman appears in her feed, something in her ignites. So she does what any reasonable person does: she goes deeper into her feed.

If you have ever followed someone online and felt a rage you couldn’t explain, this letter was written for you.

Letter 188 is part of The Filipino American Woman Project’s letters series, inspired by real conversations. This is our AAPI Heritage Month edition.

Question: I have a paid membership. Where’s my bonus content?

Right now, bonus content will be provided in the off-season, starting June 5th.

In the meantime, if you have any burning questions about any of our published letters, you can always ping Jen in our Family Potluck Group Chat or reply to any of our newsletters.

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Who is the one person you will always save, no matter what?

This letter is for the Filipino American woman who has spent her whole life showing up for everyone around her, and only recently started to wonder what that has cost her.

In this letter, Ren grows up as her mother’s emotional confidant, her younger brother’s stand-in parent, and the steadiest friend and partner anyone around her has ever had. She has always been the one holding everyone else together. And for a long time, she believed that was love.

But after one relationship too many ends the same way, what begins to surface in Ren is something painful and wordless that she has been carrying for a very long time.

If you have spent your whole life showing up for others and somehow (maybe shamefully) still feel unloved, this letter was written for you.

Letter 187 is part of The Filipino American Woman Project’s letters series, inspired by real conversations. This is our AAPI Heritage Month edition.

May is also Mental Health Awareness Month 💛

It’s okay to say that you’re not okay. If you think you may need help, check out the Asian Mental Health Collective:

AMHC was founded in 2020 by community members who have lived with mental illness, therapists, and advocates. It began with a viral Facebook group and in-person meetups for Asians to talk openly about their feelings. We broke barriers by creating the first and largest Asian therapist directory. We also hosted the first online Asian Mental Health Conference. Over the years, we’ve inspired tens of thousands of people to join the conversation.

While the organization has evolved, AMHC is still all about community. We build online spaces for folks looking to connect, share, and learn about the intersections of mental health and Asian identity.

We also know that, for most of us, Asian identity is complex. Though we’re all Asian in the diaspora, we have varied cultures, languages, backgrounds, and traditions. Our differences interweave to create a strong and diverse community.

We want mental health care that acknowledges and understands these identities, rather than erases them. We offer free therapy, support groups, and learning communities that do just that.

Whether you’re just beginning your mental health journey, or are well on your way, this space (and community) is for you.

— Source, About AMHC