LUST, DIVORCE, OATHS & THE GOSPEL Pastor Chris Hall | buckcreekchurch.com 1. HOW IT'S SUPPOSED TO BE Today's message has a lot to say to every human. But especially guys. And it's very adult in nature. You've been warned. Got it. Here's the full version with scripture included: 1. HOW IT'S SUPPOSED TO BE Any dudes here today? Cool. Anyone have a dude in their life you love? Then this is for you. Today's message has a lot to say to every human. But especially guys. So I don't want to see any droopy eyelids. God has something special for you. And it's very adult in nature. Great time to check your kiddos in with Creek Kids downstairs. You've been warned. Let's read Matthew 5:27-30. "You have heard that it was said, 'You shall not commit adultery.' But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body go into hell." If gouging out your eye or cutting off your hands could rid you of lust… do it. The problem is it won't. But now you see how bad sin is. Early church. Guy named Origen gets saved, hears Christ's teaching, knows he's in trouble. Goes off alone so he won't see a woman. Still lusted. Castrates himself. Still lusted. Because the problem wasn't his eyes or hands. The problem was his heart. And that is true for all of us. The super holy religious people looked to outward performance. "I didn't jump into bed with her. Commandment kept." But Jesus says the root of it all is the heart. We don't need less hands. We need a new heart. "Please God, have mercy on me. A sinner." That's what this is meant to do. Drive us to Jesus. God has always had a very high regard for sexual purity. It started in the garden. Sex was present before the Fall. That means it's good. Very good. There are three kinds of dudes: those who struggle with lust, liars, and dead guys. Sex is beautiful. It's erotic. It's captivating. So save it for the one you love. It's not just a physical act. It's spiritual. A mingling of souls. The fireplace for sex is a lifelong covenant. Until death do you part. Now let's read Matthew 5:31-32. "It was also said, 'Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.' But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery." He's talking to husbands. Men got rid of wives for any reason. Don't like her cooking? Certificate of divorce. Wife is ruined. Kids starving. Divorce is always meant to be a last resort. If you're married and looking for exit signs, thinking the grass is greener, you've already sinned in your heart. Read Matthew 5:33-37. "Again you have heard that it was said to those of old, 'You shall not swear falsely, but shall perform to the Lord what you have sworn.' But I say to you, Do not take an oath at all, either by heaven, for it is the throne of God, or by the earth, for it is his footstool, or by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the great King. And do not take an oath by your head, for you cannot make one hair white or black. Let what you say be simply 'Yes' or 'No'; anything more than this comes from evil." To have to swear an oath means your word alone isn't trustworthy. Why can't you just make your yes mean yes? At its heart, this is about making promises we don't keep. Jesus kept His Word. Our King is faithful. Are we people like our King? 2. NOT EVEN CLOSE: How we get it wrong Recognizing she is pretty is not lust. Wanting sex is not lust. That second look? Lust. Imagining what she looks like naked? Lust. That thing you did when nobody was looking. Lust. You think what you did was only you and that phone. Jesus says you just committed adultery. One of the Big Ten. Satan knows how powerful sex is. He makes counterfeits. Porn is a counterfeit to the beautiful covenant gift of sex between one man and his one wife. Lust leads to adultery. Adultery to divorce. Divorce means broken vows. These are connected. And nobody has clean hands here. To a holy God, lustful thoughts = adultery. Marriage vows matter. Your word is your bond. We aren't bad people because we do bad things. We do bad things because we're people with wayward, sin sick hearts. 3. REDEMPTION: How Jesus got it right Psalm 24 asks, who may ascend the mountain of the Lord? The one with clean hands and a pure heart. Because of our lust and divorce and deceit, we cannot stand in His holy place. We can't. Your sin has wrecked your own life. You know. Your sin has wrecked the lives of those you love. And it haunts you every day. Ascend the holy mountain? We don't deserve to be anywhere near the Lord. So ...
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