Dr. David Yeager joins me for a fascinating conversation about what really motivates adolescents — and why so many adults misunderstand teenage behavior in the first place. Drawing from his groundbreaking book 10 to 25, David explains why teens aren’t “lazy” or irrational at all. They’re deeply motivated by status, belonging, respect, and purpose — and when adults learn how to connect healthy behaviors to those drives, everything changes.

We also unpack the “mentor mindset” that helps parents, teachers, and coaches guide young people without falling into the traps of overprotection or harsh enforcement. From belonging uncertainty and resilience to project-based learning, earned prestige, and the future of education in the AI era, this conversation is packed with practical insight for anyone raising, teaching, or supporting adolescents.

Episode Highlights

[1:08] - Dr. David Yeager explains why adolescence really spans ages 10 to 25 — and how motivation changes during that developmental window.

[7:25] - Why the “teen brain is broken” narrative has done more harm than good for parents, educators, and young people themselves.

[15:41] - How adults can motivate teens more effectively by connecting long-term goals to what matters to them right now.

[17:59] - The surprising anti-smoking campaign that completely failed with teens — and the one that transformed adolescent behavior nationwide.

[25:00] - David introduces the “mentor mindset”: high standards paired with high support and deep respect.

[30:49] - Why struggle, stress, and anxiety are often signs of growth — not signals to quit.

[38:25] - A powerful discussion on belonging uncertainty and why transitions can feel so destabilizing for young people.

[47:22] - The concept of “earned prestige” and why many schools unintentionally make academic success feel low-status.

[56:00] - How schools can reduce competition and bullying by creating multiple paths for students to thrive.

[1:01:00] - The hidden story behind Jaime Escalante and what truly creates transformational learning environments.

[1:08:40] - David shares why the rise of AI makes motivation, purpose, and meaningful learning more important than ever.

Links and Resources

Dr. David Yeager’s book: 10 to 25: The Science of Motivating Young People

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In this episode, I sit down with the brilliant Stephanie Malia Krauss to unpack what it really means to help our kids—and ourselves—not just survive, but truly thrive in today’s world. We dig into the idea that modern life isn’t just busy—it’s fundamentally out of sync with how humans are wired to live. Stephanie introduces a powerful framework around the “dangerous weather” we’re all navigating and why so many families feel overwhelmed, overstimulated, and stretched thin.

Together, we explore a hopeful path forward. What if thriving isn’t about eliminating challenges, but about reclaiming the essential conditions that help us endure and enjoy life at the same time? From sleep and movement to play and connection, this conversation will shift how you think about parenting, education, and what our kids really need to flourish—without waiting for the whole system to change.

Episode Highlights

[00:00] - Why I’m excited about helping parents put “self-driven child” principles into action

[03:30] - Introducing Stephanie and the idea of “dangerous weather” in modern life

[08:30] - The word cloud experiment: what families are really feeling right now

[13:30] - Thriving isn’t the absence of struggle—it’s learning to live well within it

[20:59] - Allostatic load explained: when stress becomes toxic

[25:30] - The four forces: overtapped, overworked, overstimulated, overwrought

[34:00] - Rehumaning: reclaiming movement, play, and connection in daily life

[49:30] - Why sleep may be the single most important factor for kids’ well-being

[1:00:10] - The concept of a “thriving ecosystem” and collective care

[1:03:15] - Final reflection: what it means to truly help our kids—and ourselves—thrive

Links & Resources

Home | Rehumaning

Substack: @stephaniemaliakrauss

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephaniemaliakrauss

IG: @stephaniemaliakrauss

YouTube: @stephaniemaliakrauss

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In a world where violent incidents, political upheaval, and shocking news dominate headlines --- from immigration enforcement violence in Minnesota to studies pointing to "nihilistic" violence without clear motives --- many parents and caregivers are left wondering: How do we talk about this with our kids? And more importantly, how do we process our own feelings so that we don't become overwhelmed or paralyzed by fear, uncertainty, or anger?

In this episode, Ned speaks with teen mental health and parenting expert Julie Baron, LCSW-C guides listeners through developmental, emotional, and practical frameworks for navigating these conversations with children and adolescents. We'll explore the psychological roots of feeling out of control, the maladaptive ways people try to regain a sense of agency (including in forms of violence), and evidence-based tools from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and her innovative CARE model for parenting that help families cope, connect, and act --- even in uncertainty.

Episode Highlights

[0:00] - Why we fall back into old parenting habits—and how to change that

[3:11] - Julie’s work with teens and families using DBT skills

[6:39] - How parent and child emotions feed off each other (and escalate)

[9:46] - The impact of technology and social media on teen mental health

[15:12] - Practical strategies to manage overwhelming news and stress

[18:10] - The role of control—and why feeling powerless fuels anxiety

[21:33] - Understanding maladaptive coping (and what’s underneath it)

[23:43] - What we can control: attention and behavior

[28:21] - How to talk with kids about scary or overwhelming world events

[31:41] - Why connection matters more than saying the “right” thing

[36:22] - DBT communication skills: goals, relationships, and self-respect

[40:27] - Choosing your parenting battles wisely

[44:01] - The power of validation (and how to use it effectively)

[46:24] - Why inconsistent parenting responses can backfire

[47:45] - Managing stress: increasing healthy “outflows”

[49:34] - Final takeaway: connection is the ultimate buffer against stress

Links & Resources

What Works With Teens Newsletter

Parenting Teens Through Connection

Julie Baron and Associates: Website

Linkedin: Julie Baron

Instagram: @parentingteensthroughconnection

Facebook: Julie Baron and Associates

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