Welcome back to Truth Meets Taboo and to another episode of DTF Better with Sage and Sara, the series where we explore how to become more connected, more expressed, and more turned on by life itself.

In this conversation, Sara and I continue unpacking pleasure, but not in the way you’ve been taught to think about it. This isn’t about performance, perfection, or peak experiences. It’s about the small, intentional ways you build a life that actually feels good.

We introduce the idea of “planting pleasure seeds"; tiny, everyday practices that expand your capacity for joy, creativity, and self-expression over time. Because pleasure isn’t something you stumble into. It’s something you cultivate.

We move through everything from self-expression in your space, to creativity, to relationships, to the way you’ve been conditioned to prioritize others over yourself. And I share more about my own process of learning how to choose what I actually want—without filtering it through anyone else.

This is not just about seggs.

It’s about becoming someone who is deeply available; for pleasure, for truth, and for life.

This episode is an invitation to slow down, get present, and start building a relationship with yourself that actually feels good.

Themes Explored in This Episode

• Pleasure as something you cultivate, not chase
• “Planting pleasure seeds” and building capacity over time
• Why pleasure is often externalized instead of self-led
• The difference between performing pleasure vs. experiencing it
• Self-expression through space, creativity, and environment
• How your environment reflects your internal world
• Relearning joy through small, intentional practices
• The role of curiosity in accessing pleasure

Jump to the Part That Calls You

0:00 Intro
7:34 Planting Pleasure Seeds in Our Lives
16:49 The Importance of Self-Pleasure and Self-Care
27:31 Embracing Self-Governance and Intimacy Skills
36:04 Exploring Personal Desires and Whimsy
46:40 The Importance of Presence in Experiencing Life
1:01:35 The Vulnerability of Sharing Personal Experiences
1:14:34 Seeking Community in Non-Monogamous Spaces

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I’m officially opening the first-ever Truth Meets Taboo series—a six-month conversation (two episodes per month) on pelvic floor physical therapy, sexual wellness, and healing painful sex without treating pain as the point of sex.

For this series, I’m joined by my co-host Dr. Sara Sohn, a pelvic floor physical therapist, sex counselor, mentor, and professional belly-letting-outer. Sara helps people stop leaking, stop hurting, have better sex, and feel at home in bodies that have changed after weight loss, surgery, or big life shifts—and she talks about bodies and sex the way real people actually live in them.

In this first episode, we talk about moving from pain-centered sex to pleasure-centered sex, pelvic health and pleasure, nervous system regulation, sexual counseling, kink and intimacy, intentional abstinence, watering the rose garden metaphor, choosing 2026 mantras, and staying authentic while identity and desire evolve.

This series is where truth meets taboo—and where pleasure finally gets a seat at the table.

🌹 In This Episode We Explore:

• The difference between moving away from pain vs. moving toward pleasure
• Why our nervous systems often cling to suffering
• How shame shapes our relationship to seggs, bodies, and worthiness
• The connection between pelvic floor pain and emotional safety
• Self-abandonment, resentment, and boundary collapse
• Burlesque as body reclamation
• Abstinence as self-authority and erotic agency
• Ritual vs routine: cultivating pleasure intentionally
• Rewriting body narratives after weight loss or surgery
• Living “many lives in one lifetime”

Listen & Connect

• Follow the podcast for new episodes in this six-month Truth Meets Taboo series
• Share this episode with someone navigating pleasure, pelvic health, and identity shifts

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• IG: https://www.instagram.com/confidentpelvicrehab
• Website:
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After a year of grief, endings, and major life shifts, this episode opens a new chapter for the podcast.

In this episode, I share why I began a vow of intentional abstinence as an act of self-authority rather than restriction.

After everything that unfolded last year, I realized I needed to slow down, put clear boundaries around my body, and rebuild trust with my own discernment. Growing up in a highly structured military household taught me how to obey, but not how to choose for myself. Over time, that loss of agency showed up in my relationships, my boundaries, and my relationship with sex.

Now 21 days into my abstinence journey, I reflect on reclaiming autonomy, ending cycles of self-betrayal, and coming back into relationship with my body from a place of choice.

This episode marks a shift — into deeper self-authority, clearer boundaries, and a more intentional relationship with desire, agency, and self-trust.

This conversation is for anyone navigating self-authority, sexual boundaries, and learning how to trust themselves again.

Themes Explored in This Episode

• Choosing abstinence as a path to self-authority
• Growing up with structure vs. developing personal discernment
• How obedience disconnects you from your own decision-making
• Losing and reclaiming agency over your body
• The relationship between boundaries and self-trust
• Sex as validation, coping, and emotional avoidance
• Why removing a pattern creates space for awareness
• Building new nervous system responses through abstinence
• Self-governance and learning to make aligned decisions

Key Takeaways

• Abstinence can be a tool for self-awareness—not restriction
• You can lose connection to your own authority through over-structure
• Boundaries rebuild trust with yourself over time
• Sex can become tied to worthiness and validation without awareness
• Removing a pattern reveals what’s underneath it
• Discipline creates self-trust and confidence
• You don’t need to give your body to receive love

Reflection Questions

• Where in my life am I outsourcing my decisions?
• Can I hold a boundary with myself consistently?
• What would it look like to fully trust my own choices?

Closing Note

Self-authority isn’t about control.
It’s about trust.

And sometimes the strongest thing you can do
is choose yourself
even when everything in you wants to reach outside.

Jump to the Part That Calls You
0:00 Intro
4:51 The Journey of Abstinence: Reclaiming Self-Authority
11:30 Breaking the Link Between Sex and Validation
18:11 Why a Boundary Comes Before Discernment
25:09 When Intimacy Became Armor

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