Episodes

  • Married a Gay Man… And We’re Completely Monogamous ft I Married a Gay Man

    Married a Gay Man… And We’re Completely Monogamous ft I Married a Gay Man
    May 15 2026
    J&J are joined by Samantha Wynn Greenstone and Jacob Hoff, the married couple behind the “I Married A Gay Man” podcast, to unpack the relationship dynamic that has the internet completely fascinated! They tell their story of meeting during a Fiddler on the Roof audition, becoming inseparable best friends, and the text message that changed everything after an energy healer told Samantha they shared a “spiritual umbilical cord.” Jacob opens up about identifying as gay while being deeply in love, monogamous, and raising a baby with Samantha, while the group dives into why labels, attraction, and soulmate connections don’t always fit into neat boxes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    51 mins
  • Is a Breakup Revenge Post Ever Okay?

    Is a Breakup Revenge Post Ever Okay?
    May 13 2026
    Jordana and Jared hang in Florida and we hear about it on today’s ep! Jordana shares what no one tells you about traveling with twins, including getting interrogated by strangers about her fertility journey, making up fake answers about how many minutes apart the babies were born! J&J get into listener questions and debate whether divorced parents should still take family photos together at a Sweet 16, unpack a chaotic breakup revenge post asking for “female references” before dating men, and decide if a man secretly liking his own Instagram posts from a finsta is a red flag or just deeply embarrassing! Plus, they break down the most unhinged first date confession ever: a guy casually calling porn “documentaries.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 36 mins
  • He Won’t Go To Therapy But Says I’m the Problem

    He Won’t Go To Therapy But Says I’m the Problem
    May 8 2026
    Jared and Jordana are back with a Friday Feels episode covering everything from postpartum “groove returns” and winter baby timing to why February birthdays hit differently! They revisit the good times of Facebook event invites, group emails, and how dating used to feel before constant texting took over. A listener's email sparks a debate about “babe” texts, over-texting before a first date, and whether you should just go on the date or call it early. Then they break down a 21-year-old married listener asking if she’s incompatible with her DJ husband who refuses therapy and says she has “bad energy.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    54 mins
  • The “Girl You Don’t Need to Worry About” Problem

    The “Girl You Don’t Need to Worry About” Problem
    May 6 2026
    J&J are back in the studio, where Jordana reveals it’s actually pretty normal for partners to try breast milk, so does that make it weird if Jared does? Then they get into your emails, starting with a listener whose boyfriend keeps going out of his way to help a female coworker even after she said it made her uncomfortable, and why the pattern matters more than the excuse. Another listener gets love bombed all week, invited to a wedding two months out, then hits with a last minute switch to drinks and a “can we hang after if it goes well?” text before getting unmatched, and J&J explain why that feels like a setup. They also debate if saying “I’m bored” seven months in is honest or just rude, and whether telling your date you’re attracted to someone else is ever okay. Plus, a Hinge match turns dating into a job interview with phone screenings and scheduling dates a month out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 26 mins
  • Why Hot Takes Are Ruining Dating Advice ft. Dear Shandy

    Why Hot Takes Are Ruining Dating Advice ft. Dear Shandy
    May 1 2026
    Dear Shandy hosts Sharleen Joynt and Andy Levine join Jared Freid and Jordana Abraham for a fun Friday Feels crossover at Betches HQ! We get into how they each approach dating advice, why so many people are stuck “analyzing behavior,” and the difference between being confused and just turned off. Then they play a fun round of True Love or True Likes?, reacting to famous couples like Lauren Speed & Cameron Hamilton, Jason Tartick & Kaitlyn Bristowe, Amanda Batula & Kyle Cooke, and more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    46 mins
  • Ryan Seacrest’s Dating Red Flags Make No Sense

    Ryan Seacrest’s Dating Red Flags Make No Sense
    Apr 29 2026
    Ryan Seacrest’s “dating red flags” get J&J talking and how out-of-touch celebrity dating advice can be - waving at people should not be a red flag, Ryan! Jared and Jordana unpack a frustrating Hinge situation where a guy pulls back after 6 dates and claims he wants to “be friends first,” and why that’s usually just a soft exit, not a strategy. They then get into a hyper-specific first date debate: is it rude if your date doesn’t tell you where they are inside the bar, or just normal app behavior? Lastly, they discuss engagement timelines and what the “right” window is between ring shopping and getting down on one knee, and whether waiting too long is a red flag or just life happening! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 14 mins
  • Should You DM the Girlfriend If You’re the Other Woman?

    Should You DM the Girlfriend If You’re the Other Woman?
    Apr 24 2026
    Jordana and Jared kick things off discussing their night before at a fun client dinner that somehow turns into a lesson about the one airplane seat that always survives a crash (allegedly, 11A)! From there, they get into travel drama, including middle seat horror stories, whether couples who book the aisle and window are selfish, and how being nice to a gate agent can score you a surprise upgrade! Then it’s into listener emails: a petty or prudent about DMing a secret girlfriend after a Tinder hookup, and an honest breakdown of why one guy keeps striking out on first dates. They unpack dating fatigue, transactional energy, and the subtle signs you need to pay attention to to delete the apps! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    46 mins
  • He Matched With Me… And My Brother! A Dating App Nightmare

    He Matched With Me… And My Brother! A Dating App Nightmare
    Apr 22 2026
    Jordana and Jared are back in the studio and immediately spiraling about NYC heat, aging, and why early flights now require a full recovery day! They debate whether a man in his late 30s sleeping in a twin bed is an instant ick and why his mom might be the bigger red flag. Then, a listener asks if it’s okay to date while still living with an ex, and whether that situation might signal you’re not ready for something serious. Plus, red flag or dealbreaker gets wild: matching with your brother on a dating app, a $500 first date that feels too pricey, and whether a lisp is enough to end things. Jared has some thoughts about this speech pathologist! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    57 mins