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When the f**k did I become old?

When the f**k did I become old?

By: Jo Parker
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When the Fuck Did I Become Old? is the no-holds-barred podcast for everyone over 55 who is done being invisible. Co-hosted by Jo Parker and her partner Kev Stockbridge, this is real talk about ageing from 55 onwards. With humour, honesty and a healthy dose of profanity, Jo and Kev tackle everything from hot flushes and shit sleep to grief, reinvention, sex after 55 and dating in later life. Plus menopause, loneliness, retirement, mental health and the art of staying visible when society wants you to disappear.

If you’re over 55 and feel like life is shifting fast physically, emotionally, financially and nobody’s talking about it properly, this is your podcast. Each episode blends Jo and Kev’s raw reflections with unfiltered conversations from guests who have lived a little (and learned a lot).

Jo and Kev’s mission? To break the silence around ageing, smash the stereotypes and make getting older something we can laugh at, cry through and fully own….together.

It’s ageing, without the airbrushing


Season 1 - The Journney Begins...

Season 2 - The Search for a Co-Host

Season 3 - A new Co-Host; my partner Kev Stockbridge

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Episodes
  • Midlife Reinvention: From Boardroom to DJ Booth
    Apr 2 2026

    Ever looked around at your life and thought “is this it?” This week, Jo and Kev are joined by Rosie Freshwater: serial entrepreneur, wife, mum and now a DJ playing gigs across the UK.

    Rosie's story is one of the most honest midlife reinventions you'll hear. Perimenopause and the empty nest landed at the same time, she started disconnecting from everything she'd worked hard to build and found her way back through music, TikTok and a whole lot of not giving a f**k what anyone thinks.

    From borrowing her brother-in-law's decks to building a TikTok following as Roo's Renaissance, putting on the UK's first 80s modern remix dance event and planning to swap a country house for a one-bed in Hackney, Rosie is proof it's never too late to start over.

    Key Takeaways

    • Perimenopause and empty nesting can collide and that identity crash is real

    • You don't need a course to start something new; YouTube and borrowed kit will do

    • Your existing friends might not get it. That's okay. Go find your tribe

    • Reinvention puts pressure on relationships, talking (and therapy) can get you through

    • The daytime rave scene is growing and it's genuinely multi-generational

    • Success looks different in midlife: happiness and freedom over money and status

    • Don't wait for permission. Try the thing. Don't give a f**k what anyone thinks

    Timestamps

    01:55 — Introducing Rosie + the midlife pressure points

    04:10 — How the DJ journey started

    06:10 — From borrowed decks to TikTok and paid gigs

    08:03 — The 80s modern remix concept and live event

    10:41 — Why creativity beat career: the total escape moment

    11:48 — “ Bit old to do that aren’t you?”

    12:45 — Finding a new tribe when your old one doesn’t get it

    15:23 — Day raving and the multi-generational club scene

    16:27 — Partner and kids: how family reacts to your reinvention

    19:42 — Downsizing: letting go of your old identity

    22:21 — Empty nest: how the boys are handling the move

    25:35 — What’s next: Rue’s Renaissance as a brand and community

    29:00 — Rosie’s advice if you’re standing on the edge of change

    Find Rosie

    TikTok: @roos_renaissance Instagram @rosiefresh

    Event: 80s Modern Remix Dance Party — 18th April, Bermondsey Social Club, London, 2pm–9pm

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    31 mins
  • Fit and Fabulous at 50
    Mar 27 2026
    Fit, Fabulous & Flaunting It: Fitness Over 50

    What does it actually mean to be fit and fabulous in your 50s and beyond? Jo and Kev dig into the science of why fitness matters more than ever at midlife, covering strength, cardio, and flexibility, while getting real about the overwhelming amount of conflicting advice out there. They celebrate some genuinely inspiring role models (and debate whether their abs are achievable), break down why you wake up feeling like a broken robot, and share practical tips for getting your body moving in the morning without a complete overhaul of your life.

    Key Takeaways

    • Strength, cardio, and flexibility all matter, but you don't have to do everything. Pick what works for you.

    • Morning stiffness has actual science behind it: tendons and ligaments shorten with age, and your joints produce less synovial fluid. It's not just you being lazy.

    • Hydration is more important than most people realise; your muscles and ligaments are 70% water.

    • Maintaining weight loss is harder (and less glamorous) than losing it in the first place.

    • A simple morning routine; box breathing, knee hugs, hot shower, ankle rotations can genuinely help.

    Timestamps

    00:09 Why fitness matters over 50, strength, cardio, flexibility

    02:34 The benefits: bone density, muscle mass, mental health, sleep

    03:20 Inspiring role models; Mel C, Gwyneth, JLo, Gillian Anderson

    09:43 Dylan Jones on male style and fitness over 50

    14:33 Alison Cork's 10 tips for maintaining weight loss

    21:23 Jo's progress and why it's harder than expected

    23:47 Why you wake up stiff: the science explained

    25:00 Morning mobility routine to fix it

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    29 mins
  • It's Not Your Knees…It's Your Head: Conquering Ski Anxiety in Midlife
    Mar 20 2026

    Skiing, Anxiety & the Power of Mindset — with Louise Pode, Ski Mindset Coach

    Episode Description

    Jo sits down with Louise Pode, a ski mindset coach based in the UK, for a frank and funny conversation about why so many women over 45 quietly stop doing the things they love and what it actually takes to get back out there. Louise shares her own journey from chronically anxious skier with two replaced hips to leading an international coaching practice and explains how psychology plays a far bigger role on the slopes than most people realise. If skiing has ever terrified you, made you feel like the oldest, slowest person on the mountain or left you questioning why you even bothered, this one's for you.

    Key Takeaways

    • Your 'why' is everything. Before technique or training, Louise asks every client why they want to ski. That emotional anchor is what gets you through fear on the mountain.

    • Women over 45 are more likely to step back than step forward and it's not just about menopause. Decades of prioritising others, cultural expectations and internalised self-doubt all play a role.

    • Anxiety physically changes how you ski. Rigidity, leaning back, bracing; fear creates the very instability you're trying to avoid.

    • Learning to ski as an adult is genuinely hard. Expecting to crack it in a week sets you up to feel like a failure. Feeling comfortable on skis after a few days is already a win.

    • Environment matters enormously. Busy Christmas resorts with packed slopes are the worst place to learn or relearn. A quiet Italian resort beats Courchevel every time.

    • Men have anxiety too, they're just less likely to ask for help. Louise's one-to-one clients are almost exclusively women, but men do turn up at group masterclasses.

    • Overcoming anxiety is liberating beyond the slopes. Being able to look at a scary run and walk away with your head held high…that's the real goal.

    Timestamps

    00:57 Louise's background: physiotherapy, hip replacements and a love-hate relationship with skiing

    02:06 The accident that changed everything and the sliding doors moment that followed

    04:31 Why women 45+ tend to step back, not forward

    06:52 Male-dominated slopes and the intimidation factor

    08:57 How anxiety physically distorts your skiing

    11:24 What good learning actually looks like and why your instructor matters, it’s less stressful

    12:56 The coaching process; finding your 'why' before anything else

    15:45 Louise's own moment of panic at the top of Mont Vallon and how she talked herself down

    17:43 The hybrid skiing model for families of mixed abilities

    20:06 Do men seek coaching? (Spoiler: sort of)

    22:53 What Louise offers - five-session programmes, power-hours and a new online course

    25:08 Masterclasses at Tamworth and Hemel Hempstead and what a full day looks like

    27:28 Jo's experience and the best advice for anyone thinking of going back

    Find Louise

    • Website: www.louisepode.com

    • Instagram: @coachingwithlou

    • Masterclasses coming soon in Hemel Hempstead

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    31 mins
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