Have you ever watched a man date exclusively Black women for years, and then announce his engagement to a white woman, and felt something you couldn't quite name? This episode is about that feeling, and everything underneath it.

In Why Her Though | A Thought Starter on the Black Girlfriend, White Wife Phenomenon, Gabby Turner gets into one of the most layered conversations in contemporary dating culture: the specific vitriol directed at Black women who date interracially, and what it reveals about how Black women's bodies, choices, and relationships are perceived by everyone except themselves. What started as a observation about the Summer House reunion quickly became something bigger: a pattern that shows up on Love Island, in Travis Kelce's dating history, in the West and Ciara situation, and in comment sections across the internet every single day.

This episode covers the Madonna-whore complex and what it actually means when Black women are sorted into the "desire" category at birth. It covers the historic hypersexualization of Black women's bodies, dating back to Saartjie Baartman in 1810, and why that history isn't just context, it's the foundation of this phenomenon . It covers the sociological concept of Black exceptionalism in partner selection, the experimentation versus commitment perception that so many Black women have named, and what it means that research actually shows white men and Black women couples are substantially less likely to divorce than white and white couples by year ten of marriage.

Gabby also makes room for the directions the vitriol comes from, as they are not all the same. From the internalized shame Black women sometimes carry for dating outside their race, and the question of whether white women who pursue men with an exclusively Black dating history are always just passive endpoints in the pattern. As a biracial woman with a front row seat to multiple sides of this conversation, Gabby isn't speaking from inside the wound. But she's close enough to understand the weight of it.

There's no clean answer here. That's kind of the point. While I've Got You is a short-form podcast about culture, identity, and the moments worth slowing down for. New episodes weekly.

Have you ever caught yourself doing something with real fluency — noticing every detail, having opinions, feeling it in your body — and still walking around saying I don't really know anything about that?

That's where this episode starts.

In Liberation Through Creativity, Gabby Turner is driving home from a coffee shop at the beginning of the year, listening to Tiffani Singleton and Taryn Delanie Smith on We're Your Girls, when a Coleman Domingo quote from the 2025 Met Gala stops her in her tracks. He said: "I stand here representing so many generations of men who have liberated themselves through style." And something cracked open.

This episode moves through the history and cultural significance of Black dandyism — the official lens of the 2025 Met Gala theme Superfine: Tailoring Black Style — and what it means that Black men specifically used clothing to hold power and softness simultaneously in a world that told them they weren't worthy of both. But it doesn't stay in history. It comes back to something more personal: the ways we deny ourselves entry into creative containers by deciding we're not that kind of person before we ever really try.

Gabby gets into what it looks like to disclaim your own fluency — to have opinions about every fabric choice and proportion on the Met Gala carpet and still say I'm not really a fashion girlie — and what that disclaimer is actually doing. It's not humility. It's a cage. And the key is permission only you can give yourself.

This one is for anyone who has ever limited their own liberation by deciding in advance where it was and wasn't allowed to live. As a Black woman and creative navigating self-expression and identity in real time, Gabby holds the both/and: freedom lives where you already are and in the places you haven't let yourself go yet.

While I've Got You is a short-form podcast about culture, identity, and the moments worth noticing. New episodes monthly.

Have you ever finished a long conversation with an AI chatbot, felt completely understood, closed the app, and then woken up two days later with the exact same feeling?

That's what this episode is about.

In Heard But Unresolved: A Cute Little Workflow, Gabby Turner gets into something nobody is quite naming yet — the difference between feeling heard and actually processing something. After her therapist asked whether there was anything she had been bringing to Claude that should have been coming to therapy instead, Gabby started paying attention to a pattern: she had been outsourcing her emotional processing to AI like it was a workflow, and the feelings just kept coming back.

This episode covers what happens when instant gratification meets human emotion, why the pressure release valve that AI provides can quietly replace real emotional work, and what changed when Gabby stopped using Claude as a confidant and started using it as a tool. Spoiler: her productivity went up, her clarity got sharper, and she finally had something to actually bring to therapy.

Gabby also unpacks the shame and brain rot narrative around AI use, the 10-80-10 rule, and why even feeling the need to explain how she uses AI says something about the moment we're all living in right now. As a Black podcaster navigating digital wellness in real time, this episode is as much about self-awareness as it is about technology.

Whether you're someone who journals, someone who has tried to journal, or someone who has been doing their emotional processing in an AI chat window at 1am — this one is for the big feelers, the overthinkers, and anyone who has ever thought "I did the work" when what they actually did was move the feeling somewhere more convenient.

While I've Got You is a short-form podcast about culture, identity, and the moments worth noticing. New episodes monthly.