High performers love one dangerous belief: “If I can lead a team, I can figure out my relationship.”

But relationship drift doesn’t stay at home. It shows up as shorter patience, worse decisions, lower focus, and a leadership edge that dulls over time.

In this episode, I’m joined by Katarina Polonska — executive relationship strategist, gender dynamics social scientist, and founder of the Successfully in Love® method — to pressure test the myth that relationships are “separate” from leadership.

What we cover:

• Why high performers can’t “logic” their way out of subconscious patterns
• Why communication isn’t the only lever (patterns and nervous system work matter)
• The truth about blind spots: if it was an intellectual problem, you’d have solved it already
• Why many men don’t lack love — they lack language and permission for support
• The “needle test”: lots of conversations, but nothing changes? You’re stuck in the head
• One move you can run this week: identify the need under the behavior (yours and theirs)

If you’re crushing it publicly but drifting privately, this is your wake-up call — and a path forward that isn’t fluff.

Links

Katarina’s site: https://www.katarinapolonska.com/
Katarina on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/katarinapolonska/

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