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This is the 2nd day of my 12 day podcast marathon, and I want to wish you a very happy 4th of July, a very happy 250 birthday, America.

I wanted to let you know of a special event I've been invited to in San Antonio. My good friend Sharon Jenkins has created a live, in-person event in a hotel on the Riverwalk and I'm one of the speakers. I'll be teaching about Dating Safety to a room full of daters who are 40+.

But here's also the special thing - I will be taking women out that evening to a couple of places, and I'll be their wing woman. Yes, I'll take you out, watch your game and give some gentle critiques or some attagirls. That activity is a special bonus by paying in full and early.

****And here's the really special part. If you buy today, July 4th, you get a 25% discount. It's already a good deal, but 25%? Who doesn't love that?!

Check out LoveOnPurpose.fun to see the scope of the event and get your deal today.

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Have you ever found yourself trying to date a guy with certain qualities and he originally had them. But something happened, and eventually you discover that he's just like your alcoholic dad or the ex-husband who carried carried secrets or your first boyfriend who cheated on you.

There's a reason for it, and we're going to talk about it on Thursday, July 9th at 7:00 p.m. central time. It's free, and you can sign up for it at https://www.dianebrandonmoody.com/same-man-different-outfit.

And, I'm also announcing a 14 day run of daily podcast episodes from today (July 3rd) to July 14th when Simply Irresistible Collective begins.

Questions? Reach out to me at info@dianebrandonmoody.com.

Enjoy!

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You want something real. Then a conversation turns toward what you actually want, and it gets tense, or you go quiet, or you reach for the tired line. All he wants is a nurse or a purse. All she wants is my money.

Here's what those lines are really doing. Every time you say one, you teach your own brain to expect exactly that, and then you keep finding it. Grown-up dating sounds different, and it gets you to the truth a lot faster.

In this episode:

• Why the cynical catchphrases quietly work against you, and what to say instead
• The two assumptions that wreck good conversations, assuming he understands you and assuming you already know what he thinks, plus the simple question that clears both up
• The month-three conversation: what to actually ask once you're considering building something, from what you each want, to money and retirement in big-picture terms, to houses, kids, and health, to what you're each looking forward to in this chapter
• The truth the nurse-or-purse crowd never mentions: one day you might be the one who needs care. I share what that has looked like in my own marriage, and why a man who shows up in the hard moments matters far more than whether he's six foot four
• The conversation about when sex happens, why the third date is the grown-up place for it, and a short word for the men

None of this has to feel like an interview. Keep it a real conversation. And you would so much rather know by month three than three years in.

A line worth saving: stop rehearsing the worst about people, because your brain is listening, and it will go find the proof.

On the horizon: I'm reopening Simply Irresistible, my small-group program for women ready to go deeper than a podcast can take them, beginning July 14th. I'm putting the finishing touches on a few things, so more soon. If you're already curious whether it's for you, the way in is a conversation. Book a Love Audit at dianebrandonmoody.com/love-audit and we'll see if you're a fit and if I am for you.

A question to sit with: where have you been bracing for the worst in someone before they've had the chance to show you who they are?

Diane Brandon Moody is a dating coach for accomplished women over 50 and host of the Fiftysomething Love podcast. Her love story was featured in The New York Times.

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Episode 65: Water Seeks Its Own Level, and So Do Daters

You keep meeting men who can't quite meet you. Different faces, same ceiling. You're across the table from someone who runs out of depth right as you're ready to go deeper, and you start to wonder if the good ones are simply gone.

Water seeks its own level. So do daters. The men who keep showing up tend to match the level you're currently able to receive from, not the size of the life you've built. Your worth was never the question here. What you're looking at is your current capacity, and capacity can grow. Raise your own level, your regulation, what you'll hold space for, what you'll no longer tolerate, and the water rises with you. A different kind of man comes into view and stays.

In this episode:

• Why "there are no good men left" often means "I keep meeting men at one particular level"
• What your level actually is, and why it has nothing to do with how impressive your résumé is
• The quiet ways an accomplished woman keeps the water low without realizing it, every one of them protection rather than a flaw
• How raising your level changes who you notice, who you tolerate, and who stays
• The difference between settling and choosing from a full place

A line worth saving: you will not out-strategize your own ceiling. Raise the level, and the pool changes.

I know this because I did the work myself. After 41 years of dating, I placed one ad at 57 and married for the first time at 58. My life didn't get more impressive that year. My capacity to receive did.

Happening this week: My free live class, Dating Safely and Scam-Free, is this Thursday, June 25, at 7 p.m. Central, live online. If you're dating in today's landscape, this is the one that keeps you safe while you stay open to love. Save your spot at dianebrandonmoody.com/safety.

If this episode named something you're ready to change, that's exactly what a Love Audit is for. You can book yours at dianebrandonmoody.com/love-audit.

A question to sit with, and to answer in a review if it landed: where in your dating life have you been trying to change the men instead of raising the water?

Diane Brandon Moody is a dating coach for accomplished women over 50 and host of the Fiftysomething Love podcast. Her love story was featured in The New York Times.

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Simply Irresistible returns July 14, and in this episode Diane pulls back the curtain on what the program really is and who it's for.

After dating from 16 to 58, Diane learned that no amount of advice or tactics worked until she cleared out what was actually keeping love away. She shares the story of the New Year's Eve she heard a voice tell her to get engaged in 2018 and to post a Craigslist ad, the ad that drew 300 responses overnight, and the man at the end of that list she married 365 days later. The difference wasn't the ad. It was the work she'd done to prepare her body to finally let love in and let it stay.

That's the heart of Simply Irresistible. The program starts with capacity and nervous system regulation, the reasons your body resists love even when you know exactly what you want, then moves into patterns, and finally the practical tactics that only land once the internal blocks are gone.

In this episode:

• Why tactics alone never worked, and what has to come first
• The real reason accomplished women keep meeting "the same guy in a different outfit"
• Who the program is for: accomplished women over 50, always-single, divorced, or widowed, who've done some of the work and are ready to go deeper
• Who it's not for, said with zero blame, including why "the problem is all men" is the most powerless place to stand
• Why this is intimate, small-group work, and why you're not alone in it
• An honest note: if you've experienced sexual assault, especially young, Diane recommends working with a trauma therapist first

Ready to talk about whether it's your next step? Book a Love Audit at dianebrandonmoody.com/love-audit

P.S. The last free Dating Safely & Scam-Free event of the year is Thursday, June 25 at 7 p.m. Central. Register at dianebrandonmoody.com/safety

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Online dating has the lowest barrier of any way to meet someone, which is exactly why it works AND exactly why it can try the patience of a saint. Everyone is in the pool, from the woman whose standards have quietly become a moat to the man who puts in one quarter and expects a jackpot. And yet, by the last numbers I saw, around 40% of couples now meet online. The channel delivers. In this episode I walk you through how to navigate it without burning out: starting with your nervous system instead of your profile, loosening the requirements that quietly shrink your pool, moving things off the screen before you lose a month to texting, and keeping your brain engaged while you let yourself feel the spark. I also cover the doors that have nothing to do with an app, including meeting people in person, getting set up through friends, and noticing the good men already moving through your everyday life.

Before you go, a reminder. My free Dating Safely & Scam-Free session is Thursday, June 25 at 7 p.m. Central, live on Zoom. This is the last time I am doing it on Zoom this year, so if you have been meaning to come, this is your moment. You will walk away knowing how to protect your heart, your money, and your physical safety while you date with confidence. Save your spot at www.dianebrandonmoody.com/safety.

And if you saw yourself in this episode, the woman with the mile-long list, or the one who has been quietly telling everyone, including herself, that she is perfectly fine on her own, there is a deeper conversation worth having. Those are protective patterns, and once you can see them, you can begin to expand past them. Book a Love Audit at www.dianebrandonmoody.com/love-audit and we will look at what has actually been in the way, and talk about Simply Irresistible, my program for accomplished women over 50, which begins in July.

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If you've been single for a while and you've got some money to spend, a matchmaker can start to look awfully tempting. Someone else does the work. Someone else vets the men. Someone else hands you a curated list of possibilities while you sit back and wait for love to be delivered. I understand the appeal. But before you send that Venmo, there's something you need to hear, and it might surprise you coming from a dating coach.

I have nothing against matchmakers. The good ones are skilled, ethical, and worth every penny for the right woman. But here's the truth I've watched play out over and over: if you haven't dealt with the reasons you're still single, you can spend $25,000 on the best matchmaker in the country and end up exactly where you started. Different men, same outcome. Because no matchmaker can change what happens in your body or mind when a good man finally gets close.

In this episode, I break down the real difference between matchmaking and coaching, why one finds you introductions and the other makes you ready to receive them, and how to know which one you actually need right now. By the end, you might realize the smartest money you can spend isn't on finding more men. It's on becoming the woman who can keep the right one.

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Join me on May 21st at 7 p.m. central for an hour long program called Dating Safely & Scam-Free. Sign up here: dianebrandonmoody.com/safety

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