In the Season 2 finale, military spouse Kandi Hart joins the show to discuss what she's learned about building community after decades of moves. She and Stacy talk about what it takes to thrive in every new place, including the mindset you need, the tactics that can work, and how sometimes community starts with just one person.

"I will immediately walk up to somebody, and I will ask them about themselves. I'll say, 'Tell me about your family.'"

• Why Twentynine Palms — a base most people dread — became a place her whole family asked to go back to
• The party mistake that humbled her and changed how she thinks about inclusivity
• How she went from a shy kindergartner who cried every morning to the first person to grab the microphone in any room
• Why she thinks showing up at someone's door still matters more than any Facebook group
• How to build your community when you're not in a military bubble

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• Twentynine Palms, California

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Charles Grimes has spent nearly 30 years as a business psychologist, helping leaders understand themselves so they could lead others well. But he’s also been trying to understand himself, with therapy, courses, and numerous self-assessment tools. But it wasn't until he was 65 — when a friend made a casual, throwaway comment — that the missing piece finally clicked into place. He had Asperger's. The diagnosis didn't feel like bad news. It felt like freedom.

• What his friend said that set the whole thing in motion and why he didn't dismiss it
• What "masking" is, and the exhausting work of hiding in plain sight for decades
• The conductor who walked into rehearsal and transformed a mediocre choir without saying a word - and what this has to do with leadership
• What fell into place when he looked back at his life through the new lens of his diagnosis
• Learning about love and connection later in life — and why he thinks it's never too late

• A Question of Leadership by Charles Grimes
• The National Autistic Society — where Charles went for his formal assessment

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When soccer coach Scott Martin contracted a rare illness that took his hands and parts of his feet, it took the way he coached the game as well as his confidence. What followed was years of depression, discrimination, and self-doubt, until he finally found his way back to the game that he loves.

• What it was like to wake up from a month-long coma and learn what had happened to his body
• Why he skipped past the emotional reality of his illness and what that cost him
• The discrimination he faced trying to return to coaching
• What it was like to address his disability with his new team of 12-year-olds
• How he rebuilt his confidence, and what playing from the heart really means

• Play From Your Heart by Scott Martin
• The Five Stages of Grief by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

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