In this episode, Dr. Stacy sits down with Laurie Handlers to explore boundaries as the foundation for extraordinary intimacy, why your best sex might still be ahead of you, and how to create desire that doesn't fade—even after decades together.

Laurie shares her journey of finding her soulmate at 67, breaks down the 3-step boundary formula that transforms relationships, and explains why couples are "endangered" and what it takes to save them.

What You'll Learn:

• Why finding love at 67 taught Laurie what she didn't know at 27

• The 3-step boundary formula that makes intimacy hotter

• How people-pleasing kills desire and what to do instead

• Why couples are going extinct and how to become extraordinary

• What Tantra actually is (beyond the marathon sex myth)

• How sexuality becomes a portal to healing

• One 5-minute practice to reconnect tonight

• Why your best sexual years might still be ahead of you

Guest Bio

Laurie Handlers is a bestselling author, international retreat leader, and relationship visionary with over 40 years of experience in sacred sexuality, empowerment, and transformational education. Featured in the New York Times and on Bloomberg Canada, she's spoken before thousands and been a guest on countless podcasts, summits, and media platforms.

As host of two long-running podcasts—Tantra Cafe and Sex and Happiness (15 years!)—Laurie has spent decades challenging taboos and inspiring embodied self-love through humor, honesty, and deep wisdom.

Her current passion? Saving couples from extinction. After finding the love of her life at 67, she now teaches singles and couples how to attract, ignite, and sustain extraordinary love.

📖 Author of:

• Sex & Happiness: The Tantric Laws of Intimacy (International Bestseller)

• Sex & Happiness Over 60: It Only Gets Better!

🎓 Lead Facilitator for the International School of Temple Arts (ISTA) since 2008

🌐 Website: lauriehandlers.com

📧 Email: laurie@butterflyworkshops.com

🎁 FREE Download: lauriehandlers.com

Instagram: @laurie.handlers

Host Bio

Dr. Stacy Friedman is a Clinical Sexologist, certified sex & intimacy coach, and the unapologetically bold host of The Purple Passion Project. With over 26 years in the medical field and 20+ years working in sexuality, Dr. Stacy helps people break down taboos, communicate clearly, and build hotter, healthier intimacy—without shame.

She specializes in mismatched sex drives, alternative lifestyles, women who experience painful sex, and the LGBTQ+ community. Known for blending expertise with humor and heart, Dr. Stacy makes conversations about sex feel safe, real, and seriously empowering.

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Ever feel like you’re too tired, too busy, or just not “in the mood”? In this episode of The Purple Passion Project, Dr. Stacy sits down with Elana Auerbach, author of The Sure Thing: A Pleasure Practice to Go From Frustrated to Fulfilled, to uncover how one simple weekly ritual can reignite intimacy, deepen connection, and transform your sex life.

Elana shares how The Sure Thing began as a personal experiment to save her own marriage—and became a life-changing pleasure practice for people everywhere. Together, they explore how to get out of your head and back into your body, why “waiting for the mood” is a myth, and how presence and surrender create the conditions for real pleasure.

Whether you’re partnered or solo, this episode will show you that desire isn’t gone… It’s just waiting for your attention.

🧠 What You’ll Learn

• How a simple weekly pleasure ritual can rekindle long-term desire

• Why presence—not perfection—is the gateway to pleasure

• How to get out of your head and back into your body

• The real truth about “not being in the mood.”

• How sensuality can be practiced daily, not just in the bedroom

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✨ Guest Bio

Lover. Mother. Writer. Mentor. Activist. Priestess.

Elana Auerbach spent her early life on “the conveyor belt of life”—doing what was expected until it all fell apart. After leaving a life that looked perfect on paper, she began exploring sensuality and embodiment, eventually founding Sensuelle: A Woman’s Journey into Sensuality.

Her upcoming book, The Sure Thing, offers the same weekly ritual that reignited passion in her own 20-year marriage—a simple, powerful pleasure practice designed to help anyone go from frustrated to fulfilled.

🌐 Website: surethingexperiment.com

📸 Instagram: @elana.auerbach

💬 Facebook: Elana Auerbach

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💜 Host Bio

Dr. Stacy Friedman is a Clinical Sexologist, certified sex & intimacy coach, and the unapologetically bold host of The Purple Passion Project. With over 26 years in the medical field and 20+ years working in sexuality, Dr. Stacy helps people break down taboos, communicate clearly, and build hotter, healthier intimacy—without shame.

She specializes in mismatched sex drives, alternative lifestyles, women who experience painful sex, and the LGBTQ+ community. Known for blending expertise with humor and heart, Dr. Stacy makes conversations about sex feel safe, real, and seriously empowering.

✨ Stay connected!

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In this deeply honest episode, Dr. Stacy sits down with Veronica Lynn Clark to explore what intimacy looks like after trauma—and how healing the body can reopen the door to pleasure. This conversation moves from safety and self-trust to embodiment, sensuality, and ultimately reclaiming orgasm without pressure or performance.

If you’ve ever felt disconnected from your body, your desire, or your pleasure, this episode will remind you that healing and arousal are not opposites—they’re partners.

In This Episode, you’ll Learn:

• Why emotional safety is the foundation of sexual confidence

• How trauma lives in the body—and how to gently reconnect

• The role of embodiment in rebuilding intimacy

• Why orgasm is not about performance but presence

• How partners can support healing without trying to “fix” it

• Practical first steps toward reclaiming sensuality and self-trust

👩‍💼 Guest Bio & Links

Veronica Lynn Clark is a trailblazer in personal transformation, intimacy empowerment, and somatic healing. With nearly two decades of experience, she has helped countless individuals reclaim their power, heal from trauma, and embrace lives of authenticity and purpose.

A certified Somatic Experiencing® Practitioner, Intimacy Coach, and Transformational Speaker, Veronica is known for her ability to demystify complex emotional and relational dynamics, offering practical tools for healing and self-discovery. Her programs blend deep compassion with embodied expertise, creating transformative spaces where individuals feel safe to explore vulnerability and step into their fullest selves.

Veronica is the creator of Body Temple Sensuality Training for Women and The One Human Experience, both global programs bridging embodiment, intimacy, and emotional intelligence. She also hosts the Liberate Your Orgasm Podcast and is the author of To Be Aligned and S.E.X. Boss. Her retreats and workshops—featured at CIVANA Wellness Resort & Spa—integrate somatic practices, mindfulness, and energy work to support holistic transformation.

Website: www.veronicalynnclark.com/intimacy/coaching

Instagram: @veronicalclark

Podcast: Liberate Your Orgasm

https://www.veronicalynnclark.com/better-sex-less-drama-book-series

💜 Host Bio

Dr. Stacy Friedman is a Clinical Sexologist, certified sex & intimacy coach, and the unapologetically bold host of The Purple Passion Project. With over 26 years in the medical field and 20+ years working in sexuality, Dr. Stacy helps people break down taboos, communicate clearly, and build hotter, healthier intimacy—without shame.

She specializes in mismatched sex drives, alternative lifestyles, women who experience painful sex, and the LGBTQ+ community. Known for blending expertise with humor and heart, Dr. Stacy makes conversations about sex feel safe, real, and seriously empowering.

✨ Stay connected!

💜 Grab your FREE guide: 10 Things They Really Want in Bed (But Won’t Say Out Loud) @ drstacyfriedman.com

💋 Shop fun adult products (code PURPLE for 20% off)

📅 Book your 15-minute intimacy consult: drstacyfriedman.com

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In this episode of The Purple Passion Project, Dr. Stacy sits down with sex therapist and single mom Keri Green for a grounded, honest conversation about dating in your 40s, mismatched desire, and why comfort matters more than performance in intimacy. Together, they explore how pressure, expectations, and silence quietly shut down desire for both women and men.

Listeners will walk away with insight around:

• Why comfort creates better sex than confidence or performance

• How mismatched libido often reflects safety and communication issues

• The impact of cultural expectations on men’s and women’s desire

• How to reconnect with intimacy without blame or pressure

💜 Guest Bio

Keri Green, LMFT, CST is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Sex Therapist with over 20 years of experience working with adults and couples through intimacy and relationship challenges. As a single mom dating in her 40s, Keri blends professional expertise with lived experience to help people feel comfortable in their bodies, communicate openly, and reclaim authentic desire.

Website: kerigreenlmft.com

💜 Host Bio — Dr. Stacy Friedman

Dr. Stacy Friedman is a Clinical Sexologist, certified sex & intimacy coach, and the unapologetically bold host of The Purple Passion Project. With over 26 years in the medical field and 20+ years working in sexuality, Dr. Stacy helps people break down taboos, communicate clearly, and build hotter, healthier intimacy—without shame.

She specializes in mismatched sex drives, alternative lifestyles, women who experience painful sex, and the LGBTQ+ community. Known for blending expertise with humor and heart, Dr. Stacy makes conversations about sex feel safe, real, and seriously empowering.

✨ Stay connected!

💜 Grab your FREE guide: 10 Things They Really Want in Bed (But Won’t Say Out Loud) @ drstacyfriedman.com

💋 Shop fun adult products (code PURPLE for 20% off)

📅 Book your 15-minute intimacy consult: drstacyfriedman.com

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📲 Follow @drstacyfriedman everywhere for more resources, tips, and behind-the-scenes magic

In this episode of The Purple Passion Project, Dr. Stacysits down with psychotherapist and Board-Certified Behavior Analyst Laurie Singer to talk all things fetishes, desire, and neurodivergence. From the psychology behind why fetishes develop to how neurodivergent individuals often experience desire differently, this candid and compassionate conversationexplores the beauty of misunderstood pleasure. Laurie opens up about her decades of clinical experience, her book "You’re Not Crazy," and why education and empathy are essential for a healthy, shame-free approach to sexuality.
Whether you’re curious, kinky, or simply craving more understanding—this episode brings insight, humor, and heart to a topic that deserves both.

Laurie Singer is a licensed Psychotherapist and Board-Certified Behavior Analyst who heads Laurie Singer Behavioral Services inCamarillo, CA. For over 20 years, she has integrated Behavioral and Cognitive therapy strategies to support both children and adults facing mental health challenges. Her first book, "You’re Not Crazy: Living with Anxiety, Obsessions and Fetishes," invites readers inside the therapy room to better understandtheir own behaviors and emotions. She’s currently completing her second book, focusing on resilience and endurance as a decorated athlete. Laurie is passionate about educating people on sexuality, neurodiversity, and emotional well-being.
🌐 Website: https://lauriesingerbehavioral.com📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LaurieSingerBehavioral📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laurie__singer

Dr. Stacy Friedman is a Clinical Sexologist, certified sex & intimacy coach, and the unapologetically bold host of The Purple Passion Project. With over 26 years in the medical field and 20+ years working in sexuality, Dr. Stacy helps people break down taboos, communicate clearly, and build hotter, healthier intimacy—without shame.

She specializes in mismatched sex drives, alternative lifestyles, women who experience painful sex, and the LGBTQ+ community. Known for blending expertise with humor and heart, Dr. Stacy makes conversations about sex feel safe, real,and seriously empowering.

✨ Stay connected!💜Grab your FREE guide: 10 Things They Really Want in Bed(But Won’t Say Out Loud) @ drstacyfriedman.com💋Shop fun adult products (code PURPLE for 20% off)📅 Book your 15-minute intimacy consult: drstacyfriedman.com🧠 Try FLOW, a natural nitric oxide booster—get a free bottlehere: https://hop.clickbank.net/?affiliate=drstacy69&vendor=the20&cbpage=free

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[00:00:00] Introduction to Purple Passion Project
[00:01:10] Guest introduction: Laurie Singer
[00:02:29] Laurie’s background and path to psychotherapy
[00:05:33] Fetishes and neurodivergence
[00:08:46] Case studies on behavioral challenges
[00:18:55] Understanding desires in neurodivergent individuals
[00:25:32] Navigating fetishes in relationships
[00:35:16] Managing compulsive behaviors and masturbation
[00:45:34] Support, education, and "You're Not Crazy"
[00:51:57] Final thoughts and host outreach

In this episode of The Purple Passion Project, Dr. Stacy sits down with Certified Sexologist and Relationship Coach Kevin Anthony for a raw conversation about men’s performance, stamina, erection challenges, and the pressure to “get it right” in the bedroom.

They unpack why performance anxiety is so common, how lasting longer is about presence, not pressure, and why ignoring intimacy leads many couples into sexless marriages. The episode also explores cultural and religious shame around sex and reframes intimacy as sacred, essential, and worth fixing before disconnection becomes permanent.

What listeners will gain:

• Why men struggle with performance and confidence more than they admit

• What actually causes premature ejaculation and erection issues

• How lasting longer improves connection and pleasure for both partners

• What defines a sexless marriage, and why they slowly erode relationships

• How shame and conditioning block desire and intimacy

• Why sexual connection matters for emotional safety and long-term love

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👤 Guest Bio

Kevin Anthony is a Certified Sexologist, Tantra Counselor, NLP Practitioner, and Sex, Love & Relationship Coach with over a decade of experience helping men, women, and couples build deeper intimacy and better sex.

With more than 20 years devoted to studying relationships and sexuality, Kevin has coached hundreds of clients, hosted 370+ podcast episodes, interviewed 150+ experts, and created over 1,000 educational YouTube videos. He is the host of The Love Lab Podcast and the creator of Kevin Anthony Coaching.

Links:

Website: https://www.kevinanthonycoaching.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kevinanthonycoaching/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kevinanthonycoaching

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Kevinanthonycoaching

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🎙️ Host Bio

Dr. Stacy Friedman is a Clinical Sexologist, certified sex & intimacy coach, and host of The Purple Passion Project. With over 26 years in the medical field and 20+ years working in sexuality, she helps people break down taboos, communicate clearly, and create hotter, healthier intimacy without shame.

She specializes in mismatched sex drives, alternative lifestyles, women who experience painful sex, and the LGBTQ+ community. Known for blending expertise with humor and heart, Dr. Stacy makes conversations about sex feel safe, real, and empowering. Her motto: “My passion is to help you create yours.”

✨Stay connected✨

Download 10 Things They Really Want in Bed (But Won’t Say Out Loud), explore her sexy toy shop (code PURPLE for 20% off), or book a complimentary 15-minute intimacy consult at drstacyfriedman.com.

Follow @drstacyfriedman on social media for resources and behind-the-scenes magic.

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Menopause and midlife changes don’t just affect the body; they affect desire, intimacy, confidence, and connection. In this episode of The Purple Passion Project, Dr. Stacy is joined by Dr. Shannon Chavez, licensed psychologist, AASECT-certified sex therapist, and clinical sexologist, for an honest conversation about sex and hormones in midlife.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• How menopause impacts desire, arousal, and painful sex

• Why body changes can affect confidence and intimacy

• How men experience aging through erectile and hormone changes

• Why these shifts are normal and more common than people think

• How couples can talk about these changes without shame or blame

• Ways partners can support each other and stay connected

This episode is about normalizing midlife changes and learning how intimacy can evolve instead of disappearing.

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👩‍⚕️Guest Bio

Dr. Shannon Chavez, Psy.D., is a licensed psychologist, AASECT-certified sex therapist, certified sex coach, and clinical sexologist with over two decades of experience. She specializes in sexual wellness, intimacy and relationship coaching, and attachment-based psychotherapy. Her holistic approach blends sex education, psychotherapy, and somatic practices to help individuals and couples reconnect to pleasure and emotional closeness.

She has been featured in The New York Times, GQ, and Cosmopolitan and is a sought-after speaker and educator.

Instagram: @drshannonchavez

Free pleasure guides are available through her website.

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🎙️Host Bio

Stacy Friedman is a Clinical Sexologist, certified sex & intimacy coach, and the unapologetically bold host of The Purple Passion Project. With over 26 years in the medical field and 20+ years working in sexuality, Dr. Stacy helps people break down taboos, communicate clearly, and build hotter, healthier intimacy without shame.

She specializes in mismatched sex drives, alternative lifestyles, women who experience painful sex, and the LGBTQ+ community. Known for blending expertise with humor and heart, Dr. Stacy makes conversations about sex feel safe, real, and empowering. Her motto: My passion is to help you create yours.

✨Stay connected beyond the show✨

Grab your FREE download of 10 Things They Really Want in Bed (But Won’t Say Out Loud), explore her sexy toy shop (use code PURPLE for 20% off), and book your complimentary 15-minute intimacy coaching consult at drstacyfriedman.com.

Follow @drstacyfriedman for tips, resources, and behind-the-scenes magic.

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In this episode of The Purple Passion Project, Dr. Stacy sits down with Dr. Elliot Justin, MD, founder and CEO of FirmTech, to explore the future of men’s s3xual performance and why erections are about far more than just s3x. This conversation breaks down the concept of erectile fitness and how changes in erection quality can be one of the earliest indicators of cardiovascular and vascular health issues.

Dr. Justin explains why erectile dysfunction doesn’t happen overnight, how shame and silence keep men from getting help sooner, and how modern s3xtech is giving men real data about their bodies for the first time. Together, they unpack how pleasure, prevention, and performance can work together to support long-term health, confidence, and intimacy.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What erectile fitness is and why it matters before ED shows up

• How erection quality is linked to heart and vascular health

• Why nighttime erections are an important health signal

• Common myths men believe about erections and performance

• How shame and pressure affect male desire and confidence

• How FirmTech’s Tech Ring tracks erection firmness and duration

• What partners should understand about supporting men without pressure

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👨‍⚕️ GUEST BIO

Dr. Elliot Justin, MD, FACEP

CEO & Founder of FirmTech

Dr. Elliot Justin is the CEO and Founder of FirmTech, the world’s first s3x tech company focused on improving men’s erectile fitness and long-term sexual health. His work centers on the connection between sexual performance and cardiovascular health, helping men recognize early warning signs before more serious health issues arise.

A former Emergency Medicine physician and healthcare technology consultant, Dr. Justin is a serial healthcare entrepreneur who has founded and exited Pegasus Emergency Group and Swift MD. He studied at Harvard University and Boston University School of Medicine and lives in Montana with his wife of 35 years and their family.

🌐 Website: https://myfirmtech.com

📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/myfirmtech/

🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC46J3ibyYyQNPBr5T58DpFg

🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@myfirmtech

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💜 HOST BIO

Dr. Stacy Friedman

Dr. Stacy Friedman is a Clinical Sexologist, certified sex & intimacy coach, and the unapologetically bold host of The Purple Passion Project. With 26+ years in the medical field and 20+ years working in the sexuality field, Dr. Stacy helps people break down taboos, communicate clearly, and build hotter, healthier intimacy—without shame.

She specializes in mismatched sex drives, alternative lifestyles, women who experience painful sex, and the LGBTQ community. Known for blending expertise with humor and heart, Dr. Stacy makes conversations about sex feel safe, real, and seriously empowering. Her motto: “My passion is to help you create yours.”

✨ Stay connected with Dr. Stacy ✨

• FREE download: 10 Things They Really Want in Bed (But Won’t Say Out Loud)

• Sexy toy shop (use code PURPLE for 20% off)

• Complimentary 15-minute coaching consult worldwide

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