For those of us who care, we end up caring a whole lot about things that we ultimately can't control. By being picky about where we put our energy, we can save ourselves some stress and time. In this episode, get some ideas on how to best separate yourself from outcomes (at work, with friends) so you can show up as your best self. And yes, still care.

There are some transitions we choose: marriage, college, changing careers, and some that maybe are chosen for us (or happen naturally) like kids leaving the nest, divorce, or job loss. Navigating these changes is always hard, but using our values as a compass can help guide us through. In this episode, Kara and Jensie cover some of the changes they've experienced and how coming back to their values eased some (but definitely not all) of the difficulties of those transitions.

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Okay, that may be a little hyperbolic. BUT, we're pretty sure if you can root out some of the fake rush rush rush, your quality of life will improve. And these days, we'll take whatever we can get. So take a deep breath and listen in for some ideas on slowing everything down at work, at home, and with yourself. Your nervous system will thank you.

Let's face it, not only is setting goals in January forcing the issue, making a list of goals that don't feel quite right makes the whole tradition pretty boring. In this episode, Kara and Jensie talk about making goals that are in alignment with your values, waiting until February (or later) to start, and using a bingo card to entice your inner 5-year-old with stickers.

In this final episode (probably really this time) of season one, Kara and Jensie break down the official Waffles Friends Work tried, proved, tested, and approved five-step goal setting process. By aligning your goals with your values, you'll have more success in completing those goals. Why? Because when you anchor those goals in who you are and what really resonates with you, you'll focus those goals on things that YOU want. Not the goals you think you should have (or what's trending on TikTok). Listen in to learn the 5 steps and how your values are key to setting the right goals for you.

Showing up for ourselves and in our values can have a profound impact on our relationships. By knowing who we are, we allow the people in our lives to love us as we are, not as who we think they want us to be. And, in turn, gives us the perspective to love those around us as they want to be loved. In this episode, Kara and Jensie cover resentment and self-betrayal along with ways to identify both and most importantly, what to do when you find yourself in either space. Jump in to hear some ways to start small in learning to trust your gut and how to communicate with loved ones early and often.

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Keywords

boundaries, accountability, self-care, personal growth, relationships, emotional health, setting limits, self-awareness, communication, personal development

Summary

This episode covers the 3 steps to setting boundaries: identifying where we need to set a boundary, determining what the boundary should be, and enforcing those boundaries. Setting boundaries takes practice and giving yourself grace—like so many other things in life.

Takeaways

• Boundaries are essential for personal accountability.
• You are the only one responsible for holding your boundaries.
• Start small when setting boundaries to build confidence.
• Identify areas in your life where you feel drained or resentful.
• Enforcing boundaries can be challenging but is necessary for self-care.
• Expect pushback when setting boundaries, especially from those who benefit from your lack of them.
• Communicate your boundaries positively to maintain relationships.
• Jealousy can arise in others when you set boundaries they can't or won't.
• Teaching boundaries to others is part of the process.
• Give yourself grace as you navigate the complexities of boundary setting.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Boundaries
02:48 Understanding Boundaries and Accountability
04:12 Identifying When to Set Boundaries
05:59 Starting Small with Boundaries
08:34 Practical Examples of Setting Boundaries
10:51 Enforcing Boundaries with Others
12:54 Teaching Boundaries to Children
14:37 Final Thoughts on Boundaries

Living your values at work can be really tricky! Between navigating coworker relationships, leading a team, and even feeling comfortable and safe in your workplace, work can really be the "testing ground" for your values. In this episode, Kara and Jensie talk about ways to identify self-betrayal at work, how to course correct when you need to make changes, and how knowing your values can improve your experience at work. They also (finally) talk about the relationship that inspired this whole project: Leslie Knope and Ron Swanson from Parks and Recreation.

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