Not everyone wants a relationship but society still treats being single like something that needs fixing. Ciara and Richard discuss the pressure to find "the one," choosing to stay single, and whether a relationship is really the measure of a successful life.

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They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors.

New episode every Wednesday and a Bonus Episode “Messy Bits” on Mondays!

Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

Feeling exhausted, cynical, irritable, or like you're barely keeping your head above water? It could be more than stress.

Ciara and Richard discuss burnout, how it develops, and what we can do before it takes over.

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They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday and a Bonus Episode on Mondays!

Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

Hi everyone - just dropping in between episodes here with a recommendation to help address a massive psychological issue that can actively wrecking your mental health: your terrible sleep hygiene.

Lying awake at 3:00 AM overanalysing your life fuels anxiety, drives stress, and destabilises your mood. If you find it difficult nodding off, or just want to relax and actively down-regulate your nervous system, you need to check out GoLoud’s latest original stream GoLoud Sleep Sounds.

This is a pragmatically designed tool featuring a calming collection of immersive, 10-hour soundscapes. Each episode has been carefully tailored for anyone looking for a calmer, healthier bedtime routine. The long-form, entirely uninterrupted audio is designed specifically to create a soothing environment that can be played through the night or used as a cognitive buffer zone during moments of rest and relaxation. There is absolutely no talking, no stories to stimulate your brain, and zero commercial ads to wake you up. Instead, it utilizes the ambient sounds of some of Ireland's most scenic spots to anchor your mind—transporting you to Curracloe Beach in spring, Howth Harbour at sunset, the Midlands on a stormy night, the Wicklow Mountains in winter, or Dublin after dark. This acoustic continuity allows your brain to shift out of high-alert survival mode and transition into deep, restorative sleep.

Do something smart for your health tonight.

Go to the GoLoud app or wherever you listen to your podcasts, find GoLoud Sleep Sounds, press play, put the phone down, and let it do the rest.

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From dyslexia and aging to sexuality and trauma, shame can leave people carrying burdens that were never theirs to begin with. Ciara and Richard discuss where shame comes from, how it takes hold, and what it takes to let it go.

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They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.

And now a Bonus Episode 'Messy Bits' on Mondays!

Would you check your partner's phone? Does messaging someone else count as cheating? Ciara and Richard dive into the results of a listener survey on trust, infidelity, dating apps, and modern relationships.

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They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.

Friendship breakups can feel just as painful as romantic ones but we rarely talk about them.
Ciara and Richard discuss rejection, awkwardness, shared friend groups, and why losing a friend can hit harder than people expect.

Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.