What happens when the parent who always refused accountability finally agrees to therapy?

In this episode, Ruth and Katie explore the complex realities of dysfunctional family systems, the difference between reconciliation and repair, the risks and potential benefits of family therapy with a narcissistic or emotionally immature parent, and we delve deep into the pressure many adult children face to "keep the peace" from extended family – at the expense of their own wellbeing.

If you've ever wondered whether attending one final conversation is an act of self-respect or self-betrayal, this episode is for you.

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BEYOND SURVIVAL - The Therapy Podcast

"Do as I say and you can stay. Piss me off and you are out."

That was the message our listener received throughout her childhood.

In this powerful letter, she reflects on growing up with a mother who repeatedly used the threat of abandonment to maintain control — leaving her with severe anxiety, a deep fear of rejection, and the sense that love could be withdrawn at any moment.

Now a parent herself, she finds herself facing a different challenge. As she sets boundaries to protect her children, her mother accuses her of being angry, difficult to love, and responsible for breaking up the family. At the same time, she appears increasingly focused on building relationships with her grandchildren while refusing to address the hurt in her relationship with her daughter.

In this episode, we explore abandonment as a form of narcissistic abuse, the impact of growing up with conditional love, and why protecting your children can sometimes bring old family dynamics into sharp focus. We also discuss the grief of accepting that some parents are more invested in access than accountability — and what healing can look like when repair isn't possible.

Contact Dr. Ruth Callaghan: www.callaghancounselling.ie

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BEYOND SURVIVAL - The Therapy Podcast

In this week episode, I’m joined by Michelle from ADAPT Domestic Abuse Services for a vital conversation about domestic abuse and coercive control:

• How it can look in real life
• Why it can be so hard to recognise when you’re inside it
• and what support can make possible.

Michelle brings years of frontline experience supporting women experiencing domestic abuse through outreach, education, family law court support, and recovery groups across Limerick.

Together, we talk about the patterns of coercive control, the impact abuse can have on your sense of self and safety, and some of the reasons people can feel trapped, confused, or unable to name what’s happening.

This episode is for anyone wanting a clearer picture of how coercive control works behind closed doors. We also explore the importance of community awareness and the role support can play in helping someone move from survival toward safety and recovery.

www.adaptservices.ie

Phone ADAPT - 1 800 200 504

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BEYOND SURVIVAL - The Therapy Podcast